If someone has done something to you that you feel angry about, focus on some good quality of that person. He might have helped others or have virtues you can appreciate. The positive aspects of his character could be sufficient for you to erase your feelings of anger toward him.
Say to yourself, "It's enough for me that he has helped me in the past." Or, "It's enough for me that he has this or that virtue."
(Tomar Dvorah, ch. 1; Rabbi Pliskin's Gateway to Happiness, p.205)
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