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Daily Lift #217

Use A Gift To Appease Anger

Prepare a special gift for someone who is angry at you. When the person receives the gift, the anger will subside.

We find an example of this in the Torah when Jacob told his sons to take the best possible gift to the man in authority in Egypt. (see Genesis 43:11)

Furthermore, sometimes it is beneficial to allow some time to elapse. Even if at the outset of the person's anger nothing you could say would help, after time has passed he will be more open to discussing the matter.

Today, think of someone who has been angry at you. What gift can you give that person that perhaps will make him more open to let go of the anger?

(see Ralbag - Shaar hapiyus, nos. 5 and 11)

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Visitor Comments: 1

(1) mysteries, December 28, 2009 6:09 PM

Giving gifts is a good way of showing appreciation. It can be used for favours and this is a part of corruption where money buys it way get things done. The people involved in the interaction may not be genuine but the gift does the trick to get a job done. thos who do not have enough money are not able to get the favours necessary and do not succeed as well as those that have. Most of human society is corrupt with characterless figures dominating. They may have had a character worthy of mention before but with the trappings of connections this is not used anymore.

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