We are all very different when at our best than when we are at our worst. We can even seem like two different people. This isn't a rare case of "multiple personality disorder." Rather, it is simply that when we feel good we think clearly, while when we are stressed we may get angry.
We all have met people who bring out the best in us. Around them, we feel better about ourselves. We think clearer. We act kinder and more elevated. Around other people, however, we might sometimes behave our worst.
This will be true for you, and true for the person you are married to. Your task is to bring out the best in yourself and the best in your spouse. (And before you complain that this seems unfair, remember that your spouse has the same task!)
A husband and wife who know how to bring out the best in each other will live blessed lives. They will cherish each other and create a wonderful environment in which to raise their children.
(From Rabbi Pliskin's book "Marriage",
Chapter One, pp.24-6)
We're human. We need food. We need meaning and connection. And we most definitely need encouragement.
Now, in this wise and charming new volume, we learn how to effectively use the massive power of encouragement,
to encourage ourselves and others, particularly when we feel overwhelmed or depleted.
In Encouragement, Rabbi Pliskin shares meditations and affirmations, inspirational true stories, and his trademark
wise, practical advice. He shows us how our words can help others - and ourselves -- become more confident,
optimistic, and upbeat people.
Rabbi Zelig Pliskin is the author of 25 books with his specialty in mastering happiness and other positive inner resources.
His last 15 books include such titles as: "Taking Action", "Happiness", "Kindness", "Courage", "Serenity", "Building Your Self-image" "Conversations with
Yourself" and "Marriage." These books are available at: Artscroll.com.
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