Some people mistakenly think they have a natural need for approval and there is nothing they can do to overcome it. The truth is that the adult need for approval is based on demand. If a person decides he needs only his own approval and not that of others, he is able to focus on the question, "What is the proper thing for me to do now?" He does not ask himself, "How will other people look at me?"
This change in focus can be difficult, but once you accept it is possible, you will be able to change your attitude.
(Rabbi Pliskin's "Gateway to Happiness," p.288)
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