When you empathize with someone, keep in mind that you can never know exactly how they are feeling. You can only make assumptions based on your knowledge of human nature in general, and this unique individual in particular. At times, the best thing to say might be, "I can't know exactly how you are feeling. But I see how strongly this affects you."
(For a series of probing questions on this topic, see
Rabbi Pliskin's "Gateway to Self Knowledge," p.217)
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