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Daily Lift #950

Learn To Ignore Insults

When a wise person is insulted, he acts as if he doesn't know that anything's been said. He acts toward the insult like a deaf person who does not hear and a mute who cannot speak. He walks away as if nothing happened. He does not repeat the incident to anyone.

On the other hand, people who respond to insults - or even worse, tell others how someone insulted them - cause themselves humiliation.

Learning to ignore insults is a valuable skill. Mentally prepare yourself in advance to act as if you are totally deaf when it comes to hearing insults.

(see Vilna Gaon - Proverbs 12:16; Rabbi Pliskin - "Consulting the Wise")

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Visitor Comments: 2

(2) cumar samaale geeddi, July 1, 2012 1:28 PM

how to ignore someone insults to me and hurt me everyday pls give me some advice

(1) Anonymous, September 14, 2010 12:40 AM

Ignoring insults

But what if their insult still hurts your feelings... and something they said was really hurtful that you're at the point of crying? What should be done? At school many people despise me for just who I am. I know Ti Quan Do, but I do not respond with violance because I don't believe in violance. What if it is specially a girl that insults you, everyday, but a different girl each day. What do I say or react? So far, I haven't reacted to anyone's insults... I only concentrate to what I have to do. But it still hurts me inside, painfully. And hardly no one backs me up or says anything. And my girlfriend moved to Arkansas, so she can't defend me... I just want people to quit it. It is really annoying and immature. I really don't see the point of hurting someone else inside? Why do people do such things? We're all human beings of the same species, black or white, or brown, we should all be treated the same no matter what race, background, or ethnicity we may be. We're all still humans, and thats one thing everyone in this worntorn world has in common no matter what.

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