The Pride Trap

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Published: June 9, 2007

Visitor Comments: 12

(12) andre pierristil, December 20, 2008 8:28 PM

hi lori i have learned something new again from i must thank G-d and ask him for humility thank you lori.

(11) Carla Davidowitz, November 24, 2008 8:56 AM

come to south africa!!

congrats for another amazing lesson!

(10) Paula, June 15, 2007 1:01 PM

Great Lesson!

What a great way to remember a very important principle! I've never thought of replacing thoughts of pride with those of pleasure.

(9) suzy, June 15, 2007 12:54 AM

great video

(8) Barry, June 13, 2007 12:03 PM

Always Interesting

Perhaps not my favourite "Lori video," but still very interesting to watch and listen. Truly a natural great speaker.
Does she ever speak in Toronto?

(7) Susan, June 12, 2007 7:14 PM

Simple, direct and to the point.

This was probably the best advice I have heard in a long time. My children do have many life accomplishments and I have taken pleasure in seeing them grow. It helps me to not live through them, just be happy for them.

(6) Yisroel Pollack, June 12, 2007 1:38 PM

Why I am Pro-Lori

I like Lori so much; she has me in the grip of her fan club. Even though I'm still not married, because nobody wants to let me marry them because...well, because of how bad I am; still, when I listen to Lori and look on as she delivers her inspiring and well reasoned drash of musar, I'm overcome with a feeling of faith and trust in the A-lmighty and a sense of the truth of our special destiny as Jews, to uphold the holy Torah with all our might. Lori, you should be gebencht.

(5) Neal A. Illinois, June 12, 2007 11:15 AM

love it....

thanks Lori....I always find your brief videso highly enlighteneing...we hope you can one day come to Chicago to give a talk...keep up the terrific work...thanks again.

(4) Debirah Holland, June 12, 2007 8:49 AM

Excellent article!

It provokes me to make the distinction between pride & pleasure, to be more self aware. Keep up the good work!

(3) Kelly Woo, June 11, 2007 7:40 AM

I'm cashing my check, Lori!

This is brilliant. Thanks! I would be interested in what thoughts or behaviors are pride and arrogance versus pleasure. It seems that there is such a fine line. Often times, I find myself thinking about what you say all week, coming back and listening a second or third time, picking up things I didn't hear the first time.

(2) Anonymous, June 11, 2007 12:00 AM

Excellent article but I question one word

I'm not sure if the word "Pleasure" is the right word. A person should be able to be proud of his or her accomplishments not because they should be arrogant but because they were able to take the keilim given to them by HaShem and use them well. Maybe proud is not the right word either but there has to be another word besides pleasure.
P.S. If possible, I would like to ask Mrs. Palatnick for her advice on a family problem. Is this possible?
Rivkah Noble

(1) Anonymous, June 10, 2007 7:42 AM

Excellent, but slightly disagree

Mrs Palatnik's comments were very on target, but I feel a distinction needs to be made between pride and arrogance. I believe pride can be an aspect of self-esteem - in the example of the boy hockey player, the boy was not being arrogant about his abilities he was being proud of them, i.e. having self-esteem to know that he has those talents. That doesn't mean that he doesn't attribute those talents to G-d, and believes he is the source of them, which, of course, is synonomous with, and is the root of, arrogance. So, same message, slight disagreement in terminology.

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Mrs. Lori Palatnik

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Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio, and is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond: The Shabbat Experience Step-By-Step," "Remember My Soul - What to do in Memory of a Loved One," and co-author of "Gossip: 10 Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul." She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington D.C. area, with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik. Lori is the Founder of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings over 1,000 women to Israel each year from ten different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage. She is the busy mother of five children, ages 24 to 14; and her son, Zev, just finished serving as a sharpshooter in the IDF. Her weekly video blog, "Lori Almost Live" is a popular feature on aish.com, viewed by over 50,000 people each month.

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