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Is It Possible...

Is It Possible...

How to get your parents to do what you want.

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Lori Almost Live Archive

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Published: August 25, 2007


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Visitor Comments: 12

(12) Anonymous, August 31, 2007 4:57 PM

What about the parents that gave us life out of sin

Hi Lori. In honoring parents "because they gave us life:" When I was a child, my logic was "why should I honor my parents when I didn't ask for life? I thought, "Why should I honor someone who was just "having a good time?" Or, "For doing something that THEY wanted, not what I wanted?" So how would I answer these questions to a generation that thinks like this? Though I made such claims in my heart and discussed such with my siblings, we all honored them nonetheless...when we got older. Of course now, I can agree with your position.

Kol tov

(11) Dovid Herzl Lipkin, August 31, 2007 3:47 PM

Thanks

Dear Lori,

Thank you so much for your videos which I look forward to every week. I even send them my rabbi who, by the way has family in Toronto, in order to help him with his sermons :-)

Good Shabbos,

Dovid

(10) Sarah, August 31, 2007 9:35 AM

It works!

Lori- I always used to teach this to my 5th grade students but I never thought of using it on MY sometimes difficult parents....I'm married and have a child but my parents are very needy and put lots of pressure on me.

I tried the magic words on them and ...it's worked so far :)

(9) Judith Zahavi, August 30, 2007 10:25 PM

Is it possible?

Dear Laurie,
recently we have tried EVERYTHING with our son - because he is always saying "no" to us. I told him about your video and taught him your magic words. So far, so good. He wanted to do something and asked me, "Mama is it possible that blow the shofar one more time?" (After blowing it twice already at Hebrew School.) It made me think about every time I say "no" to him and I said it wa sok. He blew his shofar one more time for the class and then he had finished.
He is 6 years old by the way....... and I love your advice. It worked.
Thank You Laurie!

(8) Ruth Housman, August 28, 2007 4:18 PM

is it possible

Is it possible that some parents never wanted to give life to their children and these children are very much aware of this, so their entire lives are spent trying to come to terms with this burden? As a psychiatric social worker I have encountered such sorrow and such child abuse of egregious proportions. So I am not sure about all of this and I have a lot to think about here.

I do think there is such sorrow in life occasioned by people who probably never intended to be parents and also by their very own lives, fraught with a culture of indifference. Neglect is the worst kind of abuse.

So yes and no, Laurie. There is something very beautiful about the celebration of life and of the force that gives life. Sadly, I am not sure everything else we as parents do, and give is "over the top".
I am just not sure. Thank you for giving me something deep to ponder.

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