Why Do You Want It?

I pray for parnasa for years, even thogh my beging thought is for my own confotability, I want it so I can manage my kids more organized, calm. I want it so I can be the giver, helper. I want it so my husband will not be burdened with it and will be able to sit and learn. It not new for me that you need to answer why, but as deep as I dig in, I am answered "no". And we do have a big potential for the parnasa to flow in. What do you say to that? What do I have to do?

Thank you for the excellent insights on prayer. I will clarify my motives before I ask!

Wow, this really made me think. When I davining in the morning I usually ask for careless things. When I think of why I want these things I realized they aren't very important. I hope from now on I can ask forr things not just I need, but Klall Israel need as a whole like Mashiach to finally come!

Mrs. Palatnik tch"y,
Thank you for your insight and inspiration. For my part, I don't think puppies offer true companionship or relief from loneliness. That's why they're, as you point out, so cheap. It's easy to delude oneself into thinking otherwise. But in truth, a person needs a person of the opposite sex to fulfill his/her emotional needs. I think that's (part) of the meaning of "Vedavak be-ishto." But I think you're really worth listening to. And just maybe, this is a conclusion you were driving at too.

YP

Perhaps you need to be with your wife. It should not be "her" city, but rather your (as in the two of you) city. Perhaps what you need to do is explore yourself and your relationship. Maybe Hashem wants to give you what you need, but you're unintentionally being an impediment to your own wish. It isn't the video you should be questioning. Perhaps you need to prod further and keep asking yourself "why?". Maybe then "the job" will come.

i think this is one of her best videos
it really make me rethink about prayer..

congratulations
alberto

This is brilliant. Funny, I kind of discovered the same thing--but now I know to apply it to other parts of my life. I gave all the reasons why I needed parnossah and so far so good, Baruch Hashem, compared to other years. I had not thought of "why why why" for all of it, so thank you for your clear and friendly insight. PS, I loved Friday Night and Beyond. Glad to finally see who wrote it!

Please ask yourself this question:

is it absolutely imperative that you have a job lined up in order to move back to your wife???

Hashem IS all powerful and He can allow you to find a job (the right one too!) at the drop of a hat. He will pull all the right strings for you if you put your trust in Him and give control of the situation over to Him.

Why not return to your wife (and parents), showing them, yourself and Hashem that the most important thing to you is that you be reunited with them, and- EACH DAY, OR BEFORE EACH INTERVIEW, REINFORCE YOUR OWN BELIEF AND TRUST IN HASHEM THAT HE IS GOING TO LEAD YOU AND GUIDE YOU IN FINDING THE RIGHT JOB FOR YOU, IN A QUICK, EASY AND NON-STRESSFUL MANNER. (just by saying it, you reinforce it, even if at times you don't fully believe it because of stress) you deserve it!!!! trust in HIM!

when do we find out which are the right questions? your first set of questions to R Weinberg seemed logical (to me), an experienced man such as himself knew those weren't good enough questions & answers... maybe we all need lots of help with just the right questions, I do. I will keep questioning(without letting doubt sink in)

My wife and I live in different cities. We have been apart for 4 months. This happened because she found a new position in the city she now lives in, but I could not move at that time due to my need to complete a degree I was pursuing at night. I completed the degree 2 months ago, and all that remains for me to be reunited with her is to find a job in her city. I have sent out hundreds of resumes, I flew there and had 4 interviews but nothing came of it. One of these kept me there 4 hours, only to wait an entire month to inform me that someone else was "just slightly" a better fit. Every day I ask Hashem to reunite me with her so I can be a good husband, as well as a good son (my parents live there as well).

Nonetheless the job hunt continues, on and on, eternally. Its an inhumane process.

I have asked and prayed. If this video is correct, then what am I doing wrong ?

Hi, I just listened to this fantastic little speech by Lori, on you site, and I want to publicly thank her: It was perfect timing. I was feeling on the low side, etc... and it was a great chizuk!
Thanks,

An appreciative listener.

Excellent point, that makes you think!
Its true, why are you asking God for anything? Is there a valid unselfish purpose? I ask God to help me become closer to him, and to help my children, I also pray for peace. Spiritual and physical. And with our efforts this all will be a Dream realized. Why? Because that is what God wants and thats what we want, and He or shall I say WE {a team effort} makes all things happen. God and his "Team of angels" and all of us down here on earth, Thats all!

Since Judaism is all about the universal question of "why?", it's important to remember that than just having the gimmes. Thus one has to explain and justify his/herself in order to get what he/she truly wants and deserves. Like how the Jimmy Cliff reggae song goes - "you can get it if you really want...but you must try, try, and try - then you'll succeed at last." Furthermore, since Judaism is generally a selfless religion, JFK said it best in "ask not what your country can do for you, but ask what you can do for your country." Therefore, we must not get too self-absorbed since no person is an island. We must work hard and smart in order to get what we want, which involves effort and determination.