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Free Criticism!

Free Criticism!

Don't you love it when people tell you you're making a mistake?


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Published: October 20, 2007

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Visitor Comments: 18

(18) Anonymous, August 31, 2015 9:13 PM

I ALMOST hit stop before the end of the video...........

But I am so glad I did not do that. I don't know how I didn't see this video before now, but I am so glad I saw/listened to it. I came from a family where unsolicited and hurtful advice was the norm. My relatives were generally pretty tactless, and there was very little criticism they gave which helped me out. Alas, I have no patience for what I feel is nonsense. On the other hand. I don't have to agree with every piece of criticism that comes down the pike. Having an open mind will help me in this regard. Some people will be tactful in their criticisms and some will be blunt and hurtful, but there is always SOMETHING I can learn. Thanks Lori!

(17) SusanE, October 31, 2010 10:40 PM

Criticism is Something We Each should Ponder.

Wow great observations, Lori. When I was younger if someone criticized me, those were fightin' words. I lost a lot of good advice by being obstinate. Glad to have mellowed through the years, and will listen to constructive critism anytime. If you criticize friend or family, make sure it is something they can change, or something that is constructive. NO saying to them, 'I told you so'. Always be helpful in your criticism, and that your help is something that is valuable to the receiver .

(16) paula wagner, December 15, 2007 12:41 AM

I'm not sure about this:

I'm not real sure about this. Ever criticize someone? I have. Looking at it truthfully, I'm not sure I did it for the right reason. There are several reasons I criticize. One- is that what ever someone is doing irritates the hell out of me, the other-is I think I know better than they do, and the worst is that I put my self in the position of "knowing" what is right for them...i.e. "Hashem's business." Granted, there are some things that are necessary, like if someone is obese, we might say, it would be better for your health if you would lose weight, but in all honesty, I'm not real sure if we criticize rightly and for the right reasons...most of the time. As one who has been criticzed from time to time, it ususally impressed me in this way: "You haven't walked in my shoes...hold your tongue." In truth, the only one I ever really listened to was my mother. You see, she loved me, God rest her soul, and more importantly, she knew me. She, above all people in the world, uniquivocally, had my best interest at heart. Maybe that's the key of accepting criticizem, for me anyway. It's the one who says it...Do they really care about me? Do they know me? Do they actually take the time to understand my motivations? This is one of those things that make you go hmmmm.

(15) Herb Friedberg, October 26, 2007 12:33 PM


I think Lori is one of the most energetic & comes across great presenters I have ever seen. She hits at the heart of most matters without insulting anybody. She is lovely yo listen to. I always feel good when I hear her & always go away learning something I already knew but ignored & needed reminding. Is she available for speaking engagements or Shabbatons?

(14) Catherine Manna, October 25, 2007 6:38 PM

Words of Wisdom!

Once, twice, then three times?
Must be "Messages from God."
if we can impove ourselves to, "become better",{God-like} then its all good. even if its not so nice going through some of the things that we have to go through, at that time its worth a hearing of it. like you quoted from the Talmud book, if 3 people call you a donkey, time to buy a sadle. or its time to seriously pay attention to what God is trying to say to you and, make a change for the good! anyone can do it. Our Faith moves us, and God............. makes us because he loves us!!!
and I Love you Lori!
thank you!

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