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It's wrong even if it's true.
Published: Saturday, November 10, 2007
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About the Author
Lori Palatnik
She recently relocated with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik, to Washington, DC, where she is the Executive Director of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project of Aish DC.
Lori is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond—The Shabbat Experience Step-by-Step", published by Jason Aronson; "Remember My Soul", Leviathan Press, which explains the Jewish concepts of soul and the afterlife and a guide to anyone who has ever lost a loved one; and "Gossip—Ten Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul", Simcha Press, featured on "Dr. Laura" and FoxNews.com.
(10) Bob Rabinoff , November 17, 2007
Ketubot 77b on Lying out of Modesty
Today's (7 Kislev) Daf Yomi:
[R. Shimon b. Yochai asks R. Yehoshua b. Levi when he gets to Gan Eden:]
Was a rainbow ever seen in your days? R. Yehoshua b. Levi said to him "Yes." "If so you are not the son of Levi." [The Gemara comments:] But that was not so -- a rainbow never was seen. But he thought "I will not boast about myself."
(9) Stan Greenberg (aka Soldann) , November 16, 2007
Thank you.
I am continually moved and inspired each time I listen to your videos. Thanks for being such an inspiring and resonant vessel. Thanks also to you and the Rabbi for hosting my daughter, her family and I for Shabbos meal during my recent visit to MD.
(8) Anonymous , November 16, 2007
To Anon in Brazil
Sounds like you're doing just the right thing.When you continue to greet this person even when you are unpleasantly treated, you are maintaining dignity and contributing to Shalom in the world. You can never lose if you behave properly.
Hashem sees your pain, and also your dignified behavior, and you will get rewarded for this immensely.
(7) Annette , November 14, 2007
truth or not
Lashon HaRa is simply IMPROPER (or Evil) Speech... there's no need to limit the term 'Improper' to gossip alone. In the early 80's (or 70's?) we used to say 'constructive criticism' and 'destructive criticism' and before we knew it 'everyone' was an expert at criticizing! (expert= eh-spurting their own opinions again) and cutting up others, actually falling into the trap of self aggrandisement by putting down others. It was all an excuse to finger-point, become-an-instant-sage, attention getting, to avoid and evade one's own lack of will to self-improvement.
I rarely turn on the t.v., but for 30 seconds yesterday past noon one of the Canadian stations was showing 4 U.S. very bewildered women who were FIRED from their jobs for spreading gossip about their co-workers. The women said 'I couldn't believe that's what I got fired for'.
That's right, they were born, bred and raised with gossip. Consensus STILL doesn't make a wrong right.
Good for those employers.
But I can imagine the field day the 'media' will have with this issue, THE media themselves: oh natural/au naturel the gods and goddesses themselves at the art of Lashon HaRa.
'Convincing' not needed on this topic.
If we put ourselves in a frame of mind that EVERY SINGLE TIME we open our mouths it would be IN FRONT of The Almighty, THEN what and how would we 'say it'? would we say it?
How about this formula: If it isn't kind or necessary SHUT UP. Or think of something kind, and hopefully necessary. (when my kids where very young, we worked on this saying through tears and laughter)
I bet Bob remembers that one, & this one too: Good L.U.C.K. = Labouring Under Correct Knowledge (ie get informed - Torah is the best source)
(6) Peter , November 14, 2007
Judgement
Gossip is judgement. Even if you "SEE", something happen, you can not go into a persons mind. Only G-D, can. What appears to be obvious, may be totally innocent. Once the damage has been done; it is irreversible, and usually comes at a high price to the victim.