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by Mrs. Lori Palatnik

Make confidentiality your default button.

Published: November 24, 2007

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Visitor Comments: 12

(12) Fred, December 30, 2007 12:29 PM

Good Lesson

I lost a very dear friend because of other people's gossip, and even to this day the harm has yet to be undone. It may take a lifetime, to undo the harm. If only everyone could control their words.

(11) Kelly Woo, December 25, 2007 1:45 AM

I bought your book, Lori....

and I'm making my way through it. I would say that I have improved. :)Thanks! And to Mrs. Goldstein, the 81 year old woman on the internet - God bless you!

(10) Sarah, November 29, 2007 4:53 PM

Great Reminder

This is a great reminder that just because someone doesn't "say" something is confidential doesn't mean it is something that should be told. Thanks! :)

(9) hadasa, November 28, 2007 8:20 PM

i like all your speeches there very good

(8) Anonymous, November 27, 2007 10:24 PM

gossip with 8 second delay

that would be nice to have a quiet button. I guess we should all breath deep and count to ten before we speak.
Definitely easier said then done but little by little one may strive to improve.
as always thank you for your words.

(7) Betty Freedman Swartz, November 27, 2007 4:56 PM

Your short presentation was great. I enjoyed this very important reminder. Thank you. Betty

(6) Shoshana Zakon, November 27, 2007 3:55 PM

Very important advice

I always find that Lori talks about important issues. Repeating or not repeating what one is told is the most important video I've watched so far.

(5) adara, November 27, 2007 8:38 AM

Intriguing

We all (should) know that we shouldn't gossip. However, I wonder how often we hold in confidence information -- from others -- even when the person doesn't say it's confidential.

I recall Hillary Clinton some years ago, saying something very negative about George Bush and then justifying it by saying, "Oh, I thought everyone knew."

Okay, perhaps I've just committed lashon hera, but I didn't forget what you did, Hillary.

(4) rhoda goldstein, November 27, 2007 8:24 AM

I love you

I am an 81 year old woman. Many years ago we had a sign made up for my Father's teaching. THINK!!!!
He told us to think before we speak because once you say something you cannot hide it or take it back.
Now we see that there is nothing new under the sun. Our parents and grand parents were great teachers. I only wish that I listened to all their words of wisdom.

(3) Yisroel Pollack, November 25, 2007 2:11 PM

What Moses Spoke

I apologize but I just had another thought about what you said. It concerns the part about what Moses repeated to the Israelites. I wonder what you make of a verse like the one at Deuteronomy 3:26. But I don't mean to detract from the poignancy of your message. I think its thrust was great!
Kal tuv,
YP

(2) Yisroel Pollack, November 25, 2007 1:51 PM

Not Confidential

Mrs. Palatnik, tch"y
This was one humdinger of a powerful message. (And you can tell someone, anyone, I said that. Really!)
Best wishes,
YP

(1) Rosen, November 25, 2007 6:51 AM

keep info simple

When having conversations with people, especially those who've you just met, I've learned to keep the conversation simple without any negative aspects.

As for repeating one's self, it's a matter of how the receiver listens...If only the Head On TV ads were less annoying, then maybe we would get the point at what is being marketed to remedy headaches, as opposed to repeating it 3x!

It's all about comprehension and cohesiveness.

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Mrs. Lori Palatnik

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Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio, and is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond: The Shabbat Experience Step-By-Step," "Remember My Soul - What to do in Memory of a Loved One," and co-author of "Gossip: 10 Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul." She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington D.C. area, with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik. Lori is the Founder of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings over 1,000 women to Israel each year from ten different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage. She is the busy mother of five children, ages 24 to 14; and her son, Zev, just finished serving as a sharpshooter in the IDF. Her weekly video blog, "Lori Almost Live" is a popular feature on aish.com, viewed by over 50,000 people each month.

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