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Contemplating Divorce

Divorce is like amputation -- it's only done when the marriage is killing you.

Published: August 2, 2008


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Visitor Comments: 31

(31) Mitchell, July 19, 2012 8:12 PM

Doubts about if I married for the correct reasons

What if I can't remember the reasons why I married, or in fact I can cross out some of the reasons (my wife has changed). If I made a mistake then do I live it with it forever?

(30) Anonymous, January 30, 2011 3:30 AM

It is important not to judge

While it is a fact that people think that divorce should only occur under certain circumstances, the fact is people getting a divorce may not share with you what really happened. It may be the case that one of the members of the couple is lying about the actions of the other. These cases are so complicated. I think this is why it is said that a couple may divorce if they don't like the way their soup is cooked. Obviously that would not be the reason, but it allows people to get out of bad situations without having to explain everything in detail to others who may or may not have the discretion and discernment that their situation requires. Only the Almighty may judge a person.

(29) karen, March 9, 2010 10:07 PM

The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce Revealed

Everyone who is considering divorce [where there is no abuse ] needs to read this book and so do those who are divorced, step-parents, grandparents, etc. "Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce by ELIZABETH MARQUARDT... to understand the affects on the children. The kids are forever changed!

(28) Anonymous, January 25, 2009 4:37 PM

Is not loving someone time to cut it off?

Of course the person is usually going to have all those same qualities you married them for because people don't change their innate qualities, only their behavior. What if the problem is simply a lack of love? What if the love was never really there in the first place, and now you are coming to grips with that and feel terrible. Is it time to divorce? Thanks Joe

(27) Anonymous, September 1, 2008 3:24 PM

Such Truth So Hidden

So many advisers automatically take the stance of avoiding it. Understanably! No one explained it clearly as an option. So following the advice meant allowing the green to spread and strangled the strength to move on. So Glad your word is getting out to both people and "advisors". Others won't have to be waiting for T'chiyas HaMaysim like I do.

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