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Getting Married

Two important insights about marriage.

Published: December 27, 2008


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Visitor Comments: 22

(22) Mindy, January 4, 2009 1:29 PM

Response to the Toilet Seat question

Putting down the seat is not a PC issue. It is about safety, then caring and then love. If the seat is up, and a woman uses the facility in the middle of the night and falls in, she can hurt herself. Not to mention making enough noise to wake you. Putting down the seat shows that you care about the women you live with and their comfort and safety. It's not much to ask really. And if you are married to someone you love, you will want to do things that make her happy. This is one small thing, and the returns will be tenfold. Try thinking about this in terms of chesed instead of a someone with a psycho agenda.

(21) Anonymous, January 3, 2009 12:00 PM

Toilet Seat

What is so important about the guy putting the toilet seat down? It whould be that if it a must to put the seat down, then the lid should be put down too. Why is it the man has to always be put out and the woman doesn't? This is our PC society and the degrading of men in general.

(20) A., January 1, 2009 4:21 PM

2 minute video vs lecture

Come on! this is just a quicky video, and yes it does do a great blanket job in general terms, most of you under difficult but no abusive circumstances know that our realtionship with G-d is weaker than we care to admit, however, if you need Lori's help in your marriage I'm sure she would take much much more than 2 minutes with 'just you' From my own experience, my relationship with G-d developed quicker over the last 20 years and did and does make a difference in our home life. We spend an incredible amount of time practicing the game of life 'my way' for the first 30 to 50 years, then are we to expect a 2 minute video to change us? US?! give yourselves time... but extreme cases require extreme measures, so if there is abuse GET SOME HELP not now, but RIGHT NOW! As someone taught me: 'just grow yourself'

(19) M. Minor, January 1, 2009 12:02 PM

Lori, well spoken! I remember reading, "Respect your husband". How could I when he seemed in a world to himself. In my prayers I asked God, how I could respect this man that didn't seem to see things to do around the house. The quiet response came to my heart -"Accept him as he is." When I did, my love for him grew and our marriage was enhanced. Thank you for your words of advice. Maryella Minor

(18) Anonymous, December 31, 2008 11:55 PM

Response to Ronni

Ronni- You make a good point, and I agree with you that there are two people in any abusive relationship and both are contributing to its dysfunction, albeit usually in greater and lesser amounts. However, I don't think that any of us, looking in from the outside, can really judge a woman in an abusive relationship. It is a hard position to be in, it is very confusing, and who knows if getting divorced is really and truly the right thing for the children? It's not a decision anyone on the outside can make, for sure. There's a lot of anger and pain and sadness and depression, all of which can lead people to do illogical and ultimately unhelpful things, but can we really judge them? You speak the truth and you make a good point. Blame is not completely on either side of a two-person relationship. And we could all use a lesson in taking responsibility for as much as we can. But I too often see people thinking they know more than they really do about what goes on inside someone else's home. We can never judge.

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