_(english).jpg "Light in All the Dark Places")
_(english).jpg "Taking the Spiritual Dive")
+.jpg "The Impossible Dream?")
+.jpg "To Climb the Mountain")
+.jpg "Gaining Self Confidence")
The Three A's of Marriage
Attention, affection and appreciation. It's not rocket science.
Published:
June 20, 2009
|
Give Tzedakah!
Help Aish.com create inspiring
articles, videos and blogs featuring timeless Jewish wisdom. 
|
Visitor Comments: 5
stub
About the Author
Mrs. Lori Palatnik
Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio, and is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond: The Shabbat Experience Step-By-Step," "Remember My Soul - What to do in Memory of a Loved One," and co-author of "Gossip: 10 Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul." She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington D.C. area, with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik. Lori is the Founder of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings over 1,000 women to Israel each year from ten different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage. She is the busy mother of five children, ages 24 to 14; and her son, Zev, just finished serving as a sharpshooter in the IDF. Her weekly video blog, "Lori Almost Live" is a popular feature on aish.com, viewed by over 50,000 people each month.
Follow Lori on Twitter, @LoriAlmostLive
(5) Anonymous, December 12, 2012 3:32 PM
Good Grief
This sounds like a feminist read Dr. Laura's book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and spun it to their ideology. Any woman that wants a husband that is her Prince and who is wrapped around her finger should read the above referenced book. I know from first hand experience that my wife got everything she wanted from me and more once she read and applied what she read there. Ironically, I didn't even know it was happening while it was happening. I didn't know she had read the book until months later. How can anyone who look at the Talmud and draw the conclusion that "everything that a wife does for her husband is above and beyond the call of duty"? Did he not say she is his helper? Should the husband not die for his wife? Should the wife not live for her husband?
(4) Anonymous, November 24, 2010 3:42 AM
It is two Sided!!!
Lori, I agree with you that a man has to do everything to make his wife happy but I believe it works both ways. A wife has a responsibility to make her husband happy too!! Otherwise, the husband will be depleted of his energy for her. He needs to see that his wife appreciated what he does for her. A wife needs to express her gratitude when he does the right thing. It's a two way street.
(3) Iris Moskovitz, July 1, 2009 7:02 PM
My husband didn't have to see this to do what you suggested.
My husband goes above and beyond for me. While I was recently ill, my husband didn't care if he had to rummage through the clean laundry to find a pair of socks or undershirt. He did not prepare gourmet meals, but what he managed to get onto the table was just satisfactory with me and our girls. The love and attention he shows me on a daily basis is exemplary. He's not always the romantic nature, but I do know he loves me dearly. I love him for his aidelkeit from the first time we had met. Just keep it up.
(2) Anonymous, June 21, 2009 7:51 PM
If you are appreciative it normally works..
Thanks for this timely reminder Lori! If you are appreciative it normally works. My wife would also say a bit of money spent on new clothes to show your appeciativeness also can't hurt!
(1) Walter, June 21, 2009 7:46 PM
Brillant advice
I found this video very informative and helpful. Many thanks.