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July 19, 2009
July 30, 2009 3:05 AM
The Mind Does Like to Wander.
Thank you Lori for a Great video about concentration and focus. Your so funny telling about not being able to stay focused for one minute. I can't do it either.
I drive a one hour trip often and use that time to think about solutions and upcoming events and have conversations with G-d. I'll get into a good discussion (prayer?) with him and then I get off on another thought. When the mind comes back in a few minutes I always ask him if he went along on that other thought with me, or did he take me there.
Thanks Lori, and keep practicing.
July 24, 2009 2:47 PM
I've been thinking....
This is (as usual) a wonderful piece. Since I came home from our Jewish Women's Renaissance Project time in Israel, I have been doing a lot of thinking. I find myself praying all the time- when I pass people in the airport, or on the street, or at work, I pray for them- that they get home safely, that they are blessed with peace, that they are watched over. I thank Hashem for the gifts he has given me, and for the gifts he has given to others which have blessed me in turn. Thank you so much, Lori, for changing my life this summer. Good Shabbos, and I hope you make it home safely from Israel!
July 24, 2009 9:18 AM
July 22, 2009 1:33 AM
A very thought provoking subject-pardon the pun.
As usual, you always come across with your words of wisdom, loud and clear. When I am in my own home, the few moments that are virtually noise free, I have a difficult time to think about one thing for even one minute. What has become with todays society of constant running,going, and doing?We all need to learn to stop and smell the roses a bit more. What a sad society we have become, unfortunately.
July 21, 2009 1:11 PM
It's true we are inundated on all sides by "noise", constant noise, and perhaps for many it's a job to quiet oneself and retreat to that inner place of stillness. Personally, I live in a constant meditative state and when I feel the "chatter" is too much, I manage to find myself internally by that reflecting pool. I thought it was entirely beautiful what you wrote about Rabbi Weinberg. I can also say, he's not alone.
I do this, all the time and I am having internal conversations with God constantly. It's for praise, for prays, the aural equivalencies and a story that is so entirely about love it sends me to my knees.
Thank You for a Beautiful Piece about an important kind of PEACE and that still, small voice.
July 20, 2009 1:51 PM
TV screens, thinking, and over-thinking
With so much bombardment of TV screens in the digital age, it can be a thought-provoker. There are TV screens when I go to fill up my car with gas. As for thinking about something for at least 5 mins., it all depends on whether we reminisce or dwell on a certain thought. For some people, they tend to over-think and perseverate on the same thought, usually if they have Asperger syndrome or OCD. All in all, it depends on how meaningful or important our focuses and thought processes are. If we have a certain worry or worries, then it would be best to set up a time frame to channel it appropriately for 25-30 mins, and then move on.
July 20, 2009 4:50 AM
Focus on what you're thinking about
I read recently in a MetLife Advisory newsletter, that when we think of what we need to do, it is very important to try to focus on one thing at a time. This is very good advice. This is similar to the message given by Aish. We all need quiet time to think and when we do think, we should try to focus on one major item. Also mentioned, is that when focused on what we are doing, we should remain focused. We should not venture off and try to work like an octopus! In this way, the one item gets all of our undivided attention, which is needed to get something done in a most conscientious manner. When done, we should thank and praise Hashem for helpings us do a job well-thought out and well-done. This is not always so easy to do, as there are so many distractions. We have to learn to prioritize, and one way to do this, I have found, is to make an itinerary (or list) of what needs to be done most importantly (for the day). Statistically, it is not always possible to do all the things listed for one day to accomplish, however, we must try to focus on one item at a time, and Gd will surely help us to do the rest, eventually! Asking Hashem for His Help, is of great value.
July 19, 2009 9:14 PM
Uncertainty Might Help Us to Stay Focused
Dear Lori - Thanks for thinking about thinking. I feel that sometimes it is a certain about of uncertainty which can help us stay focused on our thoughts. In sports, for example, we stay focused on the game, until there is an outcome. When we are making a decision, we get focused. The Talmud weighs opinions.
To focus on your thoughts I can consider what I should say about them, back and forth... Does that help? Harry in RochesterNY
July 19, 2009 6:32 PM
I always went to the gym. One day I decided to go for a walk outside. At first, it was almost impossible. Over the weeks that followed I realized what I had been missing in the gym. The joy of a walk is not just the exercise you get, its the time spent walking, is listening to nature, feeling the the breeze on your face, the heat from the sun, watching the clouds move across the sky. That is my time with GOD. Time to think of my day ahead and how I will face any challenges , or if I walk in the evening how my day went and how I met my challenges ...but most of all to reflect on all his blessings of life and that are in my life!!!
July 19, 2009 6:09 PM
This is one powerful tool and video. Thanks, Lori!
July 19, 2009 3:51 PM
And what about cell phones or iPods? And what about TV in our homes? I remember vividly and fondly the original IBM Think Pad that my father always carried with him in his pocket - in the early sixties. There were no PC's in the sixties, you ask? True. But there WERE IBM Think Pads; little leather covers containing a pad of paper for writing notes. Emblazoned on the front of the pad was the word THINK. On the back, in very small letters was International Business Machines. Interesting. IBM understood that their great machines took a back seat - literally - to the human's ability to think.
What do our "PADS" (homes) resemble; launch pads with more computers, audio visual equipment, blips, blurps, and whistles than the Space Shuttle, or THINK Pads?
July 19, 2009 1:23 PM
No Time to think? I wish I could do this.
If I donot turn on a CD or the radio in the car, I might start thinking and feel really bad about many things both personal and how the World is going right now.I guess I should really try to face Life.
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