In Israel, everyone is family.

Published: Sunday, August 16, 2009

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Visitor Comments: 24

  • (24) fernande cohen , August 25, 2009

    lori i do love listening to you when people go to israel..so many come out after vacationing, saying how people can be so familiar ...well because we are a family ...beautiful...

  • (23) Alan , August 21, 2009

    I'm not so sure...

    Sorry that it seems that I may be the only spoilsport to post a questionable comment. Lori invariably posts very common sense videos, and I take to heart many of the wonderful things that she brought up in this video. However, perhaps it is the New York cynic in me, but I am not a fan of anyone being in anyone else's face, so to speak. While the bible requires us to "be our brother's keeper", in this day and age, that can often get you in trouble. Sure, we need to get involved when a life or death situation presents itself, but I do believe that minding one's business is preferable to having strangers fuss with you, however well meaning they are. Life is already filled to the brim with aggravation, and unless help is requested, I am inclined to think that people should hold their tongues. No one is a mind reader, and we often forget that unless we've walked in another's shoes, holding our tongue is also a type of not 'speaking evil'.

  • (22) SusanE , August 21, 2009

    Lori, So What did you Do? How did you fit into the Family?

    Lori, Thank you for the story today. I understand about cultures being one big family. How did you fit in on the bus? Did you take the baby out of the snuggly? Did you educate them how a snuggly works and that it is comfortable with the baby? How did you react to THEM and how did they react to YOU? ~~~~~~~ I know it isn't about the snuggly, it's about people who are comfortable with their opinions and feel free to comment to a stranger. You mentioned that you don't know of another place that that can happen. It's not only a Jewish way. My Italian friends here in the States know everything about everybody and each other. Where they had lunch and who they talked to, how much they paid for their house, who their children are dating, how much they put in the collection plate each Saturday night, and how many hours work they give to the church each month, etc. And they are not shy about telling others when they think something should be done differently. The cultures are more intense in Israel and in Italy. ~~~~~~~~~ The Jewish culture is extremely similar to the Italians. Even the religious observance is similar with the older ones adhering strictly to old ways and the young adopting the reforms. Mass in Latin and services in Hebrew is one example of observance. Children being raised Catholic and children being raised Jewish. Religious schooling, is very important to both the Jews and the Italians. The difference I find with the Jews is that they are insistent, I must either walk away, or agree 100%. So Lori, did you agree with the people on the bus and take the baby out of the snuggly, did you educate them or ignore their comments and get off at your stop with the baby and snuggly intact?

  • (21) Oded Gilad , August 21, 2009

    That's a matter of "developing" countries, like israel

    Lori, it is a beautiful and moving speach. But is this familiarity a jewish trait? From my experience, it is a humane trait, and should be praised as such, as one can find it in Muslim and Christian and Buddhist communities jsut the same...

  • (20) Laya , August 20, 2009

    So true

    Just after I made aliya someone reminded me that family is the place you can feel the safest and it's also the group you can feel the most frustrated about. But we are home. It's not a put down to America. There are wonderful and righteous people there too. It's just that if you're a Jew, when you're in Israel, you are home with your family. The jerk who frustrates you is the same guy who wil (or has)l put on a uniform to defend your life with his. We're saving your place Lori. <3

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Lori Palatnik

Lori Palatnik is an author and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio and has lectured on five continents, illuminating traditional practices and life-styles for our contemporary world. She and her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik, live in Washington, DC, where she is the Executive Director of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project of Aish DC.

Lori is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond—The Shabbat Experience Step-by-Step"; "Remember My Soul", which explains the Jewish concepts of soul and the afterlife and a guide to anyone who has ever lost a loved one; and "Gossip—Ten Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul", featured on "Dr. Laura" and FoxNews.com.

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