Empathize! You were once a teenager too.
Published: Saturday, October 31, 2009
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About the Author
Lori Palatnik
Lori Palatnik is an author and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio and has lectured on five continents, illuminating traditional practices and life-styles for our contemporary world. She and her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik, live in Washington, DC, where she is the Executive Director of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project of Aish DC.
Lori is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond—The Shabbat Experience Step-by-Step"; "Remember My Soul", which explains the Jewish concepts of soul and the afterlife and a guide to anyone who has ever lost a loved one; and "Gossip—Ten Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul", featured on "Dr. Laura" and FoxNews.com.
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(12) SusanE , November 6, 2009
Did that teenager thing.
I raised two teens during the 70's and 80's. Woodstock,Hippies and Free Love, Counter culture, anti-Viet Nam protests, Drugs and other things I had never dealt with. Don't fool yourself, your kids aren't perfect. But you can make the transition easier for them from dependent to independent. Your teenagers need to be given choices and to be able to make their own decisions as they grow from 13 into adults. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Lay the ground rules early. There were certain rules in our household when I was a teen.. NO DRUGS! NO DRINKING! NO DISRESPECTING YOUR MOTHER OR FATHER. Those were non-negotiable! Pretty much everything else was open for consideration.
(11) Esther , November 6, 2009
amazing
thank you Lori, i have tears in my eyes after listening to this video you are terrific in your wisdon, this helped me so much i hope to meet you some day, i feel as though i kinow you already, i am freinds with many of the ladies that went on the Isreal trip this past simmer from Atlanta, we are truly bless to have you in our life and i am truly thankful to Hashem for having you to listen to and get ideas from, thank you from the bottom of my heart all the best Esther Taratoot
(10) Lindsay , November 5, 2009
One through it, one in it, one coming up
Thanks for the excellent info...I have three children, one of whom has made it through his teens, a daughter in hers, and another daughter less than 2 years away from becoming a teen. But even with all that, sometime I need a reminder. Thank you! :-)
(9) Dr. T , November 4, 2009
Sorry but it sound hard to believe it's about transit
The teens are suffering not from a “transitional” syndrome but from a parental syndrome. The parents gave them so much power...now we are looking for explanations and excuses. Let's take it back! The Parental Authority and this teen problem will not disappear but diminish to “normal” levels. We deserve it but mainly, our kids deserve it to have a better future. Discipline is not punishment, “unconditional love” (as to speak today) and “endless forgiveness” can harm them. Life and society in general will not be so forgiven to them in the future
(8) nili , November 4, 2009
true of all children
Children af All ages need this empathy. Today's generations are different. Some children become "teens" very early. And we have to adapt ourselves to each child. Some children have such highly developed conciences that when we inpose on them more rules they just go bananas. We have to TRUST them.