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A Long Goodbye

Would you want to die suddenly in your sleep

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Visitor Comments: 20

(20) Anonymous, November 22, 2009 7:17 AM

. To "(8) Kiva": This was one of Lori's finest speeches. Why don't you spend your remaining days doing things for others (even for animals if you can't find any humans, or plants if you can't find any animals), like you hoped your friends

(19) Anonymous, November 22, 2009 7:16 AM

Agreed. I am not looking forward to caring for my mother in the year/s to come, she has Alzheimer's/Dementia and acute arthritis. However, I am glad I have the time with her now. Soon she may not know who i am, so now i am trying to spend as much time with as I can. i don't think I would like her to die suddenly, even with the reality of future care for approaching. thank you for your lessons every week.

(18) SusanE, November 21, 2009 1:31 AM

My Family and My Friends Know Already.

We talk about such things in conversation. Life - death, who we are leaving behind and how we all will be looking forward to a wonderful adventure. We keep it light and sincere. My friends and my children know how wonderful I think they are. I know that this world would be a darker and colder place without their having been here. I thank G-d everyday for letting me be in their company. We don't know that it will be us who leave first or our children who leave first or our friends who leave first. For that reason we must take care of the business of loving and caring right now. If you don't already do this, tonight at dinner would be a perfect time to begin.

(17) Chanie, November 20, 2009 4:06 AM


This past week, while sitting shiva for my mother a"h, I found myself repeating the obvious gifts from G-d that helped us through the two-year ordeal of her illness. Watching Lori's clip was another gift. A balm, a salve for my pain. Yes, we got to say goodbye. We transitioned from life to death and from daughter to orphan slowly. I am grateful for every moment my mother was with me, that I could kiss her hand knowing I should treasure the moment. Although she was the one who suffered, she never complained. She, too, was using the time she had left to savor the moments we could be together.

(16) Anonymous, November 19, 2009 6:30 AM

Well said

That was beautiful, Mrs. Palatnik. I would have never thought of it that way, I need to rethink two things now - whether I would prefer dying in my sleep if I had a choice, or whether I would rather prolong it. The choice seemed simple before (in my sleep!) but now I'm not so sure. Either way though, we can't choose. But we can choose to say those unsaid things while we still live. All in all, nicely put and thank you, as always, for sharing your words of wisdom!

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