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Why are we putting so much pressure on our young kids?

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(62) Anonymous, February 27, 2011 3:03 AM


Agreed! So what can we do about it? I feel bad making my kids sit after they've been sitting in school for over 8 hours. WHen my kids come home I allow them down time before I need to coax them to "settle down" and sit again, at which point the younger ones are cranky and need mommy-time! Any suggestions?

(61) Rachel, July 1, 2010 7:08 PM

I agree

I fully agree. As a mother, I feel that the elementary school homework I supervise is not worthwhile. I pull a child away from reading a good book or writing a story to fill out a silly worksheet?! I didn't have homework until middle school, and didn't have much homework at all until high school. But I have 2 ivy league degrees and a PhD, so I don't think it hurt me much academically! I agree that building an elementary-school child's love of learning is far more important than the mind-numbing worksheets I see, not to mention the social learning that comes from playing with friends after school. And I fully agree that young children are under too much pressure.

(60) Carol Posner, June 11, 2010 2:34 AM

Thank you! Thank you!

I never had homework. I was a good student and even in high school was able to finish most of my work at school before I went home. I enjoyed learning. When I got home we would bike and skate till the street lights came on and then were worn out enough to settle down with a good book! I raised 3 children. Two boys and one girl. The homework sent home with my young children absolutely ruined our family time at home. Can you imagine active little boys who had a hard enough time sitting still for their classes now being prevented from play after school by the brutal amount of homework sent home? They did not enjoy learning and struggled all through the school years. Thankfully they are all employed, fit and in good health, but could the homework fanaticism of our teachers be responsible for our country's obesity levels?

(59) Anonymous, June 10, 2010 12:06 AM

too much homework hurts

I remember getting too much homework as a child, even as young as kindergarten. It was always overwhelming and it made me dislike school. Now that I am a teacher, I try to give only a small amount of homework so that my students don't begin to dislike school but are still able to review what was learned that day.

(58) Gershon, June 9, 2010 10:58 PM

When I studied we had grades 1-4 in one room and 5-8 the other. Classes were an hour long, 15 minutes per grade and 45 minutes to do "homework" and listen to the upper classes. At the end of 2nd grade I knew four grades of studies, and the end of 6th another four grades. I was the rare good boy who did not cause a lot of trouble. I went to city schools for grades 3 - 4 and 7 - 8 and learned little more. That worked great. For me. The teachers were uncommon. It would have been much better if the classes had been segregated by ability. Breaking each period into several sessions gives time for school work, if the kids are properly grouped. School was so easy, I never learned how to study. Not good. Now they try to use the lower grades to make up for incompetence in the high schools. It works for a few. Very few. The graduates have no hangups about their hard work and the fun continues. The challenging work is done in Asia. This is a problem. A disaster for us when the Asian kids are permited originality. You are right of course. Young people can not do the work they will be able to do twenty years later, just as I can no longer do the work I could many many many years ago,

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