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Becoming One

The Jewish definition of marriage.

Published: July 3, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 60

(58) Respectgoesbothways, June 3, 2011 12:53 AM

So, reading the other comments in favor of women giving up their own names to become a Mrs. there seems to be the idea that its not a big deal and that if she doesnt she shouldnt get married, blah blah blah. If this is so, why doesnt the man give up his name out of respect and to show unity and to be joined to the wife like the Bible says and accepting the gift of her name? Think about it. Fair is Fair. IF it only goes one way then something is seriously wrong. Sound like male domination to me. Chow.

(57) Helen Ferrieux, October 30, 2010 9:22 PM

Is it so important?

Hi Lori - I am amazed to see how many comments there are about "losing one's individuality" and "women BELONG to men, like cows" (no.39) If you love a man enough to marry him you're giving up a lot of things so giving up your maiden name is just one more. Too much to ask? Don't marry the guy. In France, where I live, on all official papers, a wife is called "MRS. "A" (maiden name) MARRIED TO "B" (husband's name) (Madame A, épouse B) Good grief, marriage is difficult enough - why add more niggling problems??

Anonymous, June 3, 2011 1:00 AM

lori dont listen to this person. try to follow their logic. they are equating changing a part of you as a requirement for getting married. Any man who demands this will be unbareable to live with.

(56) Matityahu, July 16, 2010 4:33 AM

From ADAM not EVE

Women don't get it. You take the man's name not the man takes the woman's name because you, as a SOUL mate RETURN back to the single as ONE. Chava came from Adam, not Adam from Chava. If a woman does not want the man's name, it is indication that she is NOT his soul mate and he is NOT her's. Thus they should NOT get married.

(55) Jay Landau, July 15, 2010 3:04 AM

I like the idea !

Lori, The feminists have brainwashed women into being "separate but equal" during marriage, which includes keeping their names. I don't think you're old-fashioned or out-of-step, I think you are CORRECT. Yasher koach !!

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