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Carpool Wars

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Published: December 25, 2010


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Visitor Comments: 45

(43) Lisa, January 15, 2012 3:09 AM

This video is a year old......has anything changed??

Why couldnt you do the morning carpools...I doubt your too busy between 7-8 AM......then others can do the afternoon carpools. Ten minutes is huge in the morning......you say it as if its nothing. My children wouldnt be too happy if I told them that they must get up 10 minutes earlier in the mornings.....and yes, they are good kids!!

(42) fariba mesriani nahamou, April 4, 2011 6:11 AM

I like your idea very much

(41) sora'la, January 25, 2011 5:16 PM

chill out and take your friends' kids home!

twenty minutes is nothing for chesed in a 24 hour day! whatever the reason your friend is unable to take her kids home - it doesnt mean her priorities are off or that she doesnt spend time with her kids. for some people its harder to get out of the house. the reason doesnt matter!!! IF your able to do take the kids home - help their mother (your friend)!!! if you were unable wouldnt you want someone to help you?? as for missing snack, bring something in the car for your kids and teach them to help others in need. Even if you are unable to understand the reason for not being able to take their kids home. you dont necesarily know the whole reason and everyone ios different. At some point you will also need a favor done to you even if its not about carpool. Wouldnt you want somene to step up and help you with whatever is needed without making a fuss??!?!?!

Lisa, January 15, 2012 1:12 PM

At some point you will also need a favor.....

A favor is once in a while....this request sounded like everyday!!! It just seemed to me that Lori was putting her mission in life above everyone elses.......correct me if I'm wrong....shouldnt your kids come before your job? An occasionally favor is certainly OK!!

(40) Miriam, January 8, 2011 5:53 PM

chessed is when you can

I'm thrilled to have all our kids on school bus service. And when I carpool for after-school activities, we have an understanding not of coming out even, but being flexible and helpful. But I could see how the morning rush or any part of the daily grind could be a tough time to add on a routine chessed. So what happens when there are more needs for chessed that come to your door, than you can reasonably fulfill? Nowadays many of us live a fast-paced, almost self-centered lifestyle. We do our mitzvot, but have no breathing room for an extra chessed. Then one comes our way that might put us over the edge - what is the responsible response? Reengineer our lives right then, or guard our sanity above all else and just say no?

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