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Conflict Resolution

Screaming and yelling is not the Jewish way.


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Published: June 16, 2012

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Visitor Comments: 9

(8) Tammy Wellman, June 24, 2012 11:43 PM

Let's pray for each other

Lori, I have to confess I also have the same problem. I am praying for G-d to help me over come and be more self-controlled. My live has not been an easy one and I have a lot of physical pain daily BUT even that is NO EXCUSE for "Screaming and yelling". Please pray for me sister.

(7) Rosen, June 24, 2012 12:03 PM

avoiding raising our voices

Raising our voices at people, like people raising their voices at ourselves is really wrong on so many levels. It raises blood pressure on both sides. Plus, it is esp. hard when individuals with autism and austistic spectrum disorder (ASD) are yelled at because their auditory sensories are even more sensitive than a neuro-typical's. I wonder if a reasonable response to a screamer would be to try and calmly tell them, "please don't raise your voice at me." Looking back on the times people raised their voices at me, I feel like I would've wanted to tell them either to not raise their voices at me, or to use their indoor voice, or even say that they have a poor attitude, even though those latter 2 thoughts would likely inflame the situation further...

(6) Jody Kolmen, June 19, 2012 2:02 PM

thank you.

thank you Lori for your video. My mother told me the advice her father (my grandfather Edward) gave her. When I get angry or frustrated with someone, the best way to handle it is to walk away from the person and situation and let G-d take care of it from there.

(5) yacovah, June 19, 2012 1:24 PM

people need to go to anger management

(4) Miriam, June 18, 2012 2:31 PM

Powerful.

Thank you!

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Mrs. Lori Palatnik

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Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio, and is the author of "Friday Night and Beyond: The Shabbat Experience Step-By-Step," "Remember My Soul - What to do in Memory of a Loved One," and co-author of "Gossip: 10 Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul." She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington D.C. area, with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik. Lori is the Founder of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings over 1,000 women to Israel each year from ten different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage. She is the busy mother of five children, ages 24 to 14; and her son, Zev, just finished serving as a sharpshooter in the IDF. Her weekly video blog, "Lori Almost Live" is a popular feature on aish.com, viewed by over 50,000 people each month.

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