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Giving Positive Feedback

At home and the workplace, focus your attention on what people around you are doing right.

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Visitor Comments: 6

(3) Deborah Litwack, July 9, 2015 11:51 PM

Something Rabbi abraham Twerski once said.....

His father called him into his study because he had done something wrong. He had to stand there waiting for his father to raise his head and address him (probably quaking in his boots!). His father finally looked up at him and quietly said: that was not becoming of you.
That was that. A profound effect it had on him.

Anonymous, July 10, 2015 10:49 AM

To commenter #3

Rabbi Twerski's father was brilliant!!

(2) chava, July 9, 2015 4:35 PM

Be careful with how you do it.

But there's a problem with that advice. I was raised being told about all the things I did well. I thought I was pretty good. But then I went out into the real world and was devastated by the fact that it was no longer obvious that I was pretty good. I was unable to accept being just okay. If I could be really good at something, I would do it. If I would be only okay, or even less than that, I wouldn't even attempt it. To this day, I still have a lot of that, and I'm over 70 years old.

Dave, July 10, 2015 3:54 AM

I agree and admire your sharing this personal experience

I would like to ask you a personal question. Did you get most of this feedback from your mom or dad and what percentage?

Nancy, July 10, 2015 10:48 AM

To commenter #2 Chava

I don't believe Lori Palatnik is telling us never to criticize our children/employees/et. al. She is telling us to do it and then move on. Sometimes parents treat minor mistakes as if their children had amputated the wrong leg. In such a case, the parent needs to explain what went wrong and then everyone needs to move forward. Conversely, if you emphasize the positive that will bring about more positive acts.

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