My Husband’s Gift

He recently surprised me with an unusual gift that shows he cares.

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(3) Rivka, June 12, 2015 8:30 AM

My husband - baal chesed

Even though I certainly have times when I feel that my husband doesn't hear me, there many times he realizes something would be really appreciated and surprises me. Like opening the garage: the garage door motor has died so I have to get out of my car to open it manually. When I come home tired, many times the garage door is open and waiting. Or even better, he is watching from our home office window for me to pull up, and before I can open the car to walk up the snowy driveway, the door goes up and there he is. True expression of love and chesed

(2) chava, June 11, 2015 4:23 PM

examples of non-chesed, with good intentions

A teen was visiting me with her parents. She asked if she could put some stuff away for me. I thanked her, but said "no". Her father said I should let her do it, let her learn to do chesed. But she wouldn't have been learning to do chesed. If I had let her do it, I would have been doing chesed, not her. People need to do what other people want, and NOT do what they DON'T want. Another example --- I'm pretty old and I have lots of stuff. Much of it was given to me, and isn't what I would have chosen. At this point in my life, if I want or need something, I want to choose it myself. My family likes to give me things, even though they can't afford it. I asked them to NOT give me anything, please. If they nevertheless try to give me something, I actually feel anger. They're not giving me a gift. They're not doing chesed. It feels like they're being disrespectful, since they're doing precisely what I asked them not to do.

(1) Anonymous, June 7, 2015 11:24 AM

This is crucial to think about when giving a gift.

Several years ago a friend of my husband bought a book for my son. This friend proudly stated that the book would be a very good "study guide." It was no such thing. I ended up donating the book to our local library. The friend had no concept of what was an appropriate gift. I agree that we really do need to listen to the other person's desires.

 

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