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Rabbi Weinberg’s Marriage Advice

What qualities did you see in your spouse when you first got married?

Published: July 13, 2013


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Visitor Comments: 7

(5) nancy, July 20, 2013 6:16 PM

thanks

Thanks, I needed that!

(4) Anonymous, July 18, 2013 5:03 PM

Why did I marry Her?

Mrs. Lori Palatnik - Oh right you are!
But what about when one married a female person due to she was put in "shame" by the male person?

(3) Anonymous, July 18, 2013 4:55 PM

But what if they are NOT still true, or now you hate those qualities

OK but truth is sometimes people change so much that the original qualities you saw in the person that so attracted you are simply no longer there. It can happen. Some intelligent people simply never develop and get stupider as they get older, or the funny one who makes you laugh one becomes flaky, or a totally unfunny bore.

Or the original qualities that were so attractive are NOW the ones that make you most insane. I know plenty of people who adored their spouse's adventurous spirit and 20 years later it means they are unreliable and even dangerous, or loved their spouses cute little mannerisms that now make them wish they'd just grow up and act like adults.

Dvirah, September 21, 2013 5:46 PM

Also...

Sometimes the qualities that you thought the person had - or that the person pretended to have - turn out to be nonexistant.

(2) s, July 15, 2013 2:52 AM

I read somewhere that the purpose for these challenges is so that the couple can grow together. When single, a person can only reach a certain amount of potential. But when married, people grow so much more because of the challenges and working together to overcome the hurdles. The more effort, the stronger the relationship

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