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Tests: Connection Vs. Estrangement

The most common challenge we have with our spouse.

Published: August 4, 2012


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Visitor Comments: 19

(12) Inanna Baskan, August 14, 2012 7:25 AM

Her husband co-signed a loan w/o telling her.

WOW. She passed the test and the test went away. Yasher Koach to her!

shoshana, August 14, 2012 10:38 PM

tests don't always go away

I'm happy this lady's test went away, but many times they not only continue but mulitply.

Mordechai Shuali, August 15, 2012 10:08 PM

One long test or many short ones

We are all here to grow, to attain our fullness (shleimut). What one needs to attain his/her personal fullness/shleimut is determined by HaShem. Some people will always have to battle "simply" getting up in the morning to pray or to give a bit of charity. They may have to fight this war day in and day out for their entire life. Others will be tested by going from challenge to ever greater challenge. The reward may be greater for the former than it is for the latter even though the latter certainly appears to be a greater tzaddik, sage, etc.

galabye, August 19, 2012 7:24 AM

We don't know what the text is for unless we have the answer sheet

I hear what you're saying however, in order for us to know for sure we are passing a test - we have to know what the test is. Unfortunately, many times we think that the test is something totally different than what it actually is. For example, if someone does wrong to us, we may believe that the test is not to get upset, but in truth the test may be: not to complain or not to speak ill of this person who did this to us. When I think back, I truly believe the reason I continued to endure suffering was because I continued to speak about the perpetrator who caused me to suffer. When the truth is that perpetrator was only a tool in G-d's hands. But even though I believed this, I felt that I needed to justify myself with the purpose of rebuilding my name that this other person was destroying...

(11) Chana@jewishmom.com, August 8, 2012 7:56 PM

loved this

thanks lori, this was awesome, you're the best!

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