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What’s Harder: Marriage or Parenting?

Here’s my answer, and I want to hear what you think.

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Visitor Comments: 28

(28) Dave, November 17, 2016 4:57 PM

It's all one

The greatest gift you can give your children is a happy stable marriage.

(27) Esther, January 14, 2016 3:24 PM

I think marriage is harder than raising children

Marriage is much harder to me than raising children !

(26) Eric Wood, January 3, 2016 1:05 PM

I say Marriage.

Prepared for neither but must make success of marriage before any chance of success with children. Fine for me to talk, my wife was fantastic. 50 years, I'm alone now and wonder how she did a job, raised the children and ran the house. Proverbs 31 woman. Could not have done without her!

(25) Anonymous, January 3, 2016 8:32 AM

Raising yourself is the hardest. Marriage and parenting show you how to raise yoruself and your success is reflected in your marriage and kids.

I really like your videos. You deal with live issues that pertain to everyoone. I use them in teaching English in a relevant and interesting context. ( I hope that's OK with you.)
In a marriage we have the opportunity to work on ourselves, as we do in raising children. Each close relationship in our lives demands of us to refine our characters. this is the challenge of life which the mitzvot guide us through so beautifully.
Thank you for raising this thought provoking question.

(24) Anonymous, January 2, 2016 1:28 AM

Good Marriage Makes Parenting Easier

The answer to the question is greatly dependent on who a person is married to, and the characters of both spouses. If both spouses are loving, kind, patient, supportive, wise, and selfless, it is a lot easier to be married to a person like that. And the children will mostly copy what they see in the parents which would make parenting a lot easier. A lot of problems with parenting children begin with the marriage relationship. But even with the natural challenges of a good, solid, loving marriage, if you have more than one child I agree with Lori that you will have to give more of yourself to invest in another person. The more children, then the more challenges because of each individual relationship, but also the more rewards. :) If the marriage relationship is not good, then you will most likely have far more challenges with parenting. I like that Aish encourages character development which is key for success in both marriage and parenting.

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