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When the Housekeeper Quit

It was the best thing to happen to our family.

Published: February 19, 2011


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Visitor Comments: 55

(54) Anonymous, November 24, 2011 9:07 PM

I a gree with you heartily... Very well said. .I am one of 11 siblings....and that is exactly what we did and the result is we are ALL responsible human beings.

(53) Anonymous, July 27, 2011 6:19 PM

I see both sides

I have 6 children who are trained to help out since outside help is a luxury that we cannot afford. My husband has been unemployed for almost 3 years and, needless to say, things are not easy. I could REALLY use the outside help once a week. Daily help or 3x week help would be too much - I still want my kids to help out . Realistically, cleaning is not among my favorite things to do - I can understand my kids not enjoying it either. They all help out erev Shabbat - even my youngest ones - putting out the Shabbat and regular toilet paper. Everyone can help out in some way - whether or not you have help. It is important for each and everyone in the family to feel a certain amount of responsibility to the home and it's upkeep.

(52) Anonymous, July 7, 2011 1:23 PM

One man's medicine is another man's poison

Everybody's situation is different. I grew up without a housekeeper, nor do I have one now (bear in mind that I'm one of three children and a young newly-wed without kids yet). However, for some families/mothers a housekeeper is practically a neccessity. Imagine a family with kids who are 8, 6, 4, 2, and 3 months old. (If you think that this is an extreme case, come visit my Jerusalem neighbourhood.) Some of those women could handle being great wives, great mothers, and also doing all the housekeeping (and maybe working, too.) I respect these women. I also know that I am not one of them. I burn out. I get crabby, impatient, and childish when I'm overloaded and sleep deprived. I would be neither a good wife nor a good mother. It seems very clear to me that in such a case hiring somebody to clean my house for a few hours a week would be a very good thing for my family. Mind you, a family with 5 children under the age of 9 generates a lot more than a few hours of housekeeping per week. I, my husband, and the kids would still have to all pitch in to keep the place running. But why should I push myself beyond my physical/emotional limits to wash the floor when I can pay somebody else to do it? Being a wife/mother is not something that I can delegate to a housekeeper. Housekeeping is.

(51) SusanE, March 29, 2011 6:06 AM

Help is Wonderful When You Need it.

. I had a wonderful woman come in after my last child was born. Each Wednesday morning for 3 months she and I dusted and ran the vaccum, changed the beds and generally straightened the house so it was orderly. She ate lunch with us and then did the dishes and babysat in the afternoon (and watched her soaps) while I did grocery shopping. It was wonderful and a real luxury. ~~~~~~~~~~~ Years Later when my husband got a dog, I got a cleaning lady who did floors and windows every week. The fur and the mud were never ending. I trained the dog and housebroke her and she was a wonderful pet. I thought it was equal give and take. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I wish I could afford help now. The cleaning ladies make more than I do. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ It's been a week Lori, since your maid quit, let us know in 6 months how the chores are working out.

(50) Anonymous, March 23, 2011 3:04 AM

You are more right than you think

I grew up in a home with a live in maid. She did everything cook. clean. straighten out every room, even wake us up to get to school on time. I never had to do any work. When I got married I had to learn to cook for the first time, suffice it to say that the my first roast cooked for 8 hours since I had no idea for how long it should cook and it took me 10 years to adjust to the fact that Maria was not going to appear out of the blue and continue to clean up after me. I personally believe that so much reliance on others for help ready handicaps the individual and makes it very hard to learn to be both self reliant and work as a team. Do not recommend it to anybody the price you pay it too big

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