Soul Control, Part 2: Getting Approval

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Published: June 23, 2007
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(9) Anonymous, February 26, 2009 2:51 AM

Keep them coming!

I just purchased from Amazon 4 of Dr. David Leiberman's books. He is amazing, and keep this series coming. This is a great zechus for Rabbi Noach Weinberg ztz"l, and is needed greatly. This is true self-growth, and this is what will change the world to a better place to live in. Of course it will bring Moshiach quicker! Chazak!

(8) Connie Davis, September 11, 2007 4:16 PM

very informative and helpful

I would like to see Dr Dave do a series on how to deal with competative behavior

(7) Annette, June 26, 2007 10:05 PM

You're so up-to-date!

mazal tov! you just keep getting better
thanks thank you very much
I've heard this information from secular personal growth seminars, and people want this information badly, regularly, they attend for the associations created by these seminars, all over the globe!!
And now in Jewish terms! there's nothing better: R. Yaakov, Lori,etc.,& now Dr Dave

(6) daniel kannan, June 25, 2007 11:10 PM

HALLELUJAH

I LOVED WHAT I SAW ON THE 2 VIDEOS BY DR.DAVID.... does he have any books out, i would like to purchase them.....

(5) Anonymous, June 25, 2007 12:19 AM

I feel better now !

Now I feel so much better when you don't wave back in the morning coming home from shul.

(4) chaya sara, June 24, 2007 11:04 PM

wow what a powerful message

i really am so impressed with your understanding of what people need to hear. you hit the nail on the button. how people do things to get others approval!! awesome job! thanks keep sending more of these they are so powerful.just a few positive words can change a persons view!!

(3) Rosen, June 24, 2007 7:13 PM

good points on interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships!

Well said on how our attitudes reflects upon how we treat and judge others. A very common case of people making others feel bad, is most likely because that individual is having a bad day, which shouldn't be taken personally. When we help others, we attain higher self-esteem, such as I do, when I point out to people if pieces of cash fall off their person, and I either point it out to the individual or return the money to the owner when I see them make that error. Therefore, honesty is key on getting closure on self-esteem.

(2) Abramovich Milton, June 24, 2007 2:08 PM

Trasnfert to heart

A very good movie and Dr. Lieberman is right. But could I transfer those ideas to the heart (feelings).
Best Regards
Milton Abramovich

(1) Anonymous, June 24, 2007 11:09 AM

Give the other person the benefit of doubt

Thank you for your article and the line above to remember to keep things cool instead of overheated. Relating the
person's attitude to their concept of themselves, ego vs self-esteem, is something I would not have thought about on my own. Now I will have to examine my views and values. I appreciate your insight and sage advice.
Signed: A female from Florida

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David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., is an award-winning author and internationally recognized leader in the field of human behavior and interpersonal relationships. Techniques based on his seven books, which have been translated into 19 languages and include two New York Times bestsellers, are used by the FBI, The Department of the Navy, Fortune 500 companies, and by governments, corporations, and mental health professionals in more than 25 countries. Dr. Lieberman’s work has been featured in publications around the world, and he has appeared as a guest expert on more than 200 programs such as: The Today Show, Fox & Friends, PBS, The O’Reilly Factor, NPR, and The View. Infusing Torah wisdom into the psychological process, Dr. Lieberman lectures and holds workshops on a variety of subjects across a spectrum of audiences--frum and kiruv-oriented, alike. He writes a bi-weekly column called Human Nature 101 for The Jewish Press, and lives in Lakewood, New Jersey with his wife and children.