Soul Control, Part 5: Listen Up!

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Published: July 14, 2007
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(5) eli, July 20, 2007 6:59 PM

excellent. I agree totally with Dr. Lieberman

I agree totally with Dr. Lieberman. Excellent!

(4) Lisa Johnson, July 19, 2007 4:50 PM

enjoyed video

Great video! Thanks!

(3) Elissa Grunwald, July 16, 2007 8:36 AM

More people need to exposed to these links

Low self esteem and unconstructive critisism is unconsciously repeated from generation to generation. Awareness and imagining what "you" felt when you were a child and criticised or reprimanded is a good excercise to practice and recall when you teach and support your children and help to reduce guilt and shame. Our children are an extension of ourselves, they are mini adults in training, and will react to what you the parents say and play it over and over in their mind. Support, a few seconds of eye contact, a sit down expalnation about "sharing" or whatever "ticked you off" will make your kids feel secure, loved instead of feeding your own insecurity taking out the real tension of your day and making you feel powerful. When a child asks why? The because I said so answer causes rejection and hurt. An explanation with no interruptions, a close of the paper or the cell phone can make for special time, feeling good and raise self esteem instead of having kids feel "blamed or the source of parents unhappiness. As someone who works with kids they talk about wanting the time of their parents their understanding and when they do not feel secure at home they will look other places. You the parent create this positiveness in your children. You are the most important person in their lives. Take good care and love watching them grow. EG

(2) keren, July 15, 2007 4:49 PM

I really enjoy Dr. Dave and the Soul Control series. Thank you for bringing it to Aish... I look forward to hearing more.

(1) Rosen, July 15, 2007 7:48 AM

Ridicule and criticism is not a good virtue

It can be easier and more tempting to criticize someone for their faults, especially if it is true. As I have experienced, miserable people will want to make others feel miserable, and positive people will want to make others feel good about themselves as long as they have the time to focus on just that. Unfortunately, it can be easier to recall criticism and ridicule, even years after it is said, than it is to think of those who give you praise. I'll look forward to Dr. Dave's next video on why most people nowadays suffer from low self-esteem, whether it's due to the remaining and painful memory or that of perseveration (i.e. cannot stop thinking of a certain issue and/or bringing it up to others over and over again).

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Dr. David Lieberman

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David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., is an award-winning author and internationally recognized leader in the field of human behavior and interpersonal relationships. Techniques based on his seven books, which have been translated into 19 languages and include two New York Times bestsellers, are used by the FBI, The Department of the Navy, Fortune 500 companies, and by governments, corporations, and mental health professionals in more than 25 countries. Dr. Lieberman’s work has been featured in publications around the world, and he has appeared as a guest expert on more than 200 programs such as: The Today Show, Fox & Friends, PBS, The O’Reilly Factor, NPR, and The View. Infusing Torah wisdom into the psychological process, Dr. Lieberman lectures and holds workshops on a variety of subjects across a spectrum of audiences--frum and kiruv-oriented, alike. He writes a bi-weekly column called Human Nature 101 for The Jewish Press, and lives in Lakewood, New Jersey with his wife and children.