Burn Your Bridge

I have done this once. I was in an impossible situation in life that was holding me back. I read somewhere in Torah where hashem stated "Do this my son and set yourself free"....So.....I actually moved to another city where I knew noone and had no job. The fear forced me to start a new life. I found a job and a nice place to live. Burn YOUR bridges too! Good advice, Charlie!!!!!

how will the fear push you forward? isnt it what stops you from tapping into your potential?

While in many instances, fear will freeze a person dead in their tracks, such "fear that freezes" still allows you to retreat to a previous position, to the point of setteling for much, much less than you are capable of. This is the scenario many of us are facing in the abysmal economy in the US and around the world. We are settling for less, because it is at least paying the bills. I start a new profession in sales next month. I had to quit my job, and literally burn that bridge behind me. I can never go back to not only that job, but that industry again. As a result, my chances of success went up from 10% to 90%! It's just me and God now. Faith is an excellent weapon in war of any kind. The Rabbi gets it! Shalom!

This is the best advice i have ever heard! I still have this fear...and I've had it for years! Now, I'm going to just do it without thinking twice...and I'm not takng NO for an answer! Todah Rabah!

All peoples on this earth today burn bridges. I have burned a few myself--but perhaps I have been burning the wrong bridges. I wish I had this kind of information 40 years ago. Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of my life--I will use this information. May G-d bless and keep us all in peace...Shalom

Hi, Ephraim. You wrote "Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of my life." That's true. So is TODAY - so don't put it off and act NOW this minute :-) Best wishes and make Al1yah as soon as possible.

I feel bored when fear is not around, fear give me energy to stand and fight the greatest power in the world. This message about "Burn Your Bridge" is just perfect, real and extremely useful. Javier Gautier

Maybe, that is one of the reasons, why I am depressed : I always look back at the bridges I had to leave behind me. A very new thought: I should burn them. A frightening thought in the berginning, but maybe it is the only possibility to live now and accept life at it is today... Maybe that's what my Creator asks of me? ?? Thanks for aish.coms eye-opener!

It is always easier to be proactive about things when you first hear about it. This was a motivating and inspiring speach, however, if we dont act right away, we may loose the mindset that got us started. It is hard to suddenly burn our escape bridge. All that we need is to make the enitial push that will get the marbil rolling to greatness!

Thanks so much for the video. I really think that we all should try to be better and not let problems get in the way of us reaching our goals.

Thanks for the video, very interesting! Do you have any other related resources i could look at?

amazing!! this presentation helps put life in the right perspective. u wont succeed if u see another way out!

amazing

This is so true its unbelieveble just what we all need to go forward in life and not let problems stop us on te contrary when there is no option we focus better n we try harder thank you very much Charly Harary way to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good video! sometimes the people need to face the problems and the situations, it is much better than run away, and escape. Because, when you face your problems, your embarrasing situations, you can find the solution faster than when you go away and escape of your problems. you can find the balance, when you study The Torah and apply It to your life. H' blesses you and gives you Shalom, simchah and wisdom for to understand the misteries of The Torah

great, very inspiring.I wish i could share it with many people!

i just wanted to say how inspired me and my sister were from the vidoe burn your bridge. it really motivates you to move fwd even when it can be so scery and hard. thank you!

Very inspiring, Just what I need now before Pesach when the fear of not finishing cleaning the chamets, drives me to work harder.

WOW. That was so inspiring. Thanks

I needed that! I just need to figure out how to maintain the power in the message and rise above and maximize my potential.

I love it! Thank you so much!!

Amazingly well done - thank you!

Thank you so much for this video...it's exactly the inspiration I need right now!!!

I think there is more than a kernel of truth to this message. No one strategy works all of the time, but the message of eliminating an escape route or an "easy way out" is very important in achieving greatness. But it requires FAITH.

In this situation, and with no way out, or time to buy, I find myself a couple of days before Peisach, and it doesnt matter how early on I started to clean. I;d better finish or finish before deadline!!! Without realizing I was capable to do it, I stay awake and work as a slave 40 hrs non stop. So true and inspiring what Charlie presents, well done!

wow...fantastic! Charles harary u r great!

Well, that's the way the Zealots felt and they were wrong which is what led to the downfall of Israel and the destruction of the second temple and the deaths of Jews and the slavery of Jews brought to Rome. So I guess my advice is to do it for yourself but don't make the decision for others.That is the decision Ahmadinejad is making about Iran and the Palestinians and that is what makes him a Zealot. Europe should watch this film to get an education. As Rabbi Cooper from the Simon Wiesenthal Center said "Ahmadinejad denies the Holocaust and wants to finish the job." Because Ahmadinejad does not think clearly, he does not realize that the Naziis were up against inhabitants of the shtetl. Things have changed. Now Israel is a country and is armed.

Thank you I'm putting your advice into action!

- if it is only chaos, the body will die - if it is only control, the spirit will die - if only .. ....

Good Shabbos. I find your videos entertaining and inspiring. Surprisingly, my son appreciates them as well. I appreciate your contributions to keeping Judaism alive and thriving. Todah.

It's been a terrible week. Thanks for the lift. Gut Shabbis. **Your Twitter link didn't work for me so I had to shortening the address and post it that way.

Exremely well done video! Kudos to all involvded in it's production. Mr. Harary is amazing communicator! Keep it coming! Thank you, Yisrael

I LOVE ALL OF HIS BLOGS!!!!

WOW, Iam moved. Thank you, just to let you know I am sitting down with a broken ankle. Not any more after today..

"Burn your bridge" can go through my mind through out the day, just in day to day situations. Such a profound concept, and relatable in small and large matters. Charles, you are a gifted speaker!

I truly felt compelled to write and to say thank you for such a powerful message. I also liked the way with which you presented it; it was in such a humble, yet convincing way that made me completely focus on your message and take it home with me. ...

There is powerful philosophies written and spoken about the transitional qualitys of the peaceful beauty and suble mysteries of life. Unfortunately these are not predominant in times of great turmoil and noise on the surface of excistence, like the period we live in now, of course depending on location and culture. And sadly war has been one of the main forces changing societys and destinys throughout known history, rendering all matters of lucid dreaming and slow, thoughtful change absolete and sweeping away both fruitful and harmful confusion to a clear point of do or don´t in everyone that has to face it. We now live in the third world war, that has been going on since the second, and because of developements in media and technology we "all" face it together. The consept of war grows utterly absurd as we mechanise and commercialise the battleground and thereby remove the distinct quality of facing yourself and your enemy in battle, or fighting for a ridgeous cause. Wars are usually started by the few, and fought and suffered by the many. Maybe the perplexing and intriguing perspectives of war will loose its grip on our minds as the masters of war loose their powers of illusion, and they are left naked with their basic motivations of fear and greed. Hopefully some people will keep their believe that faith can move mountains, but my guess is that most modern men will still resolve to the use of dynamite, and will have to be led back to the place were life grows in peaceful abundance, by those humble ones who are disregarded as weak, utopian dreamers in a more violent time and place.

WOW. Thank you for giving me a powerful way to start my day.

Unbelievable! what a beautiful idea. And represented in such a clear, powerful way! Watching this, I was reminded of a quote I've seen: "Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore." True, it's a risk, but it's worth it! Even if you don't "discover new oceans" or win the battle so to speak, if you don't take the chance and risk it, you may just spend the rest of your life wondering what would have happened if you had. Thank you Aish.com and Mr. Harari.

GREAT AND POWERFULL

But I liked him better when he was hyper and talking too fast to get the words out!

I am always perplexed as to why we always must use war as analogy for life. I agree with Mr. Harary about reaching your potential, but I believe ones impetus can come from determination and a belief that God wants us to fulfil our potential...not fear.

Pretty good. It's insightful and easily understandable. Thanks.

This young man just said in 4 minutes what I have been searching for for 40 years! Yasher Koach! I am keeping this email because it is the fire that I need under me!

WOW! This is SO TRUE!! As a result of the economic down-turn, my company was reorganized, meaning that my 12-year position with the organization was rewritten to include a significant pay-cut and decrease in responsibilities. When a new position at my company later opened-up at my previous pay-grade, I jumped at the opportunity, eventually starting a completely new job in a completely new field. Although I have spent many days of the last few months "as lost as a ball in weeks," I must admit that I've loved (practically) every minute of it and that the change in my former position was actually a huge blessing. I'm college educated with several advanced degrees, am mentally stable, and have had a steady 24-year work-history that has demonstrated continuous growth. Yet, I must be honest and admit that I have NEVER (technically) been qualified for anything that I have EVER done. You are SO RIGHT, FEAR is a great motivator! Even if we don't really know what we are doing, if we remember that Hashem guides our steps, remain open to the "wisdom" of others, be willing to share the spot-light, and "fake-it" until we do actually know what we are doing, burning our bridges (or ALLOWING them to be burned) can be a GREAT thing!! Thanks for the reminder.

He was well spoken so I got much of what he was saying despite the fact that I 'hear' only with a cochlear implant. I've let fear dominate too much of my life. I've been debating if I should take a trip to some exotic place - my firsvacation in many years. Now, I feel that this was a message to get me moving.

Dear Signor Morè Harary, thank you very much ! greetings from Venezia, SCP

Thank you. This really inspired me to push away my fears and start fresh with no fears. This piece was amazing!

Thank you, we did just that before we made aliya and I guess that was one of our reasons of survival against all odds.

Excellent! So true! Thanks a lot.

Awesome!

Thank you for this uplifting message. After loosing my mother just a few days ago, and my sons being off into the Army, I've been feeling "what do I do now?" ... feeling lost with no direction. Your message will carry me into the next year and after that who knows? Thank you so much.

powerful !!!!

Breaking one board will never be a challenge again... once you've done it.

That was incredible! i am beyond speechless!!!! the way you just solidified that idea...wow

Thanks Charlie! how big true! How great job! CONGRATULATIONS!

Thank you for realizing your potential in making these awesome movies!!! I hope your energy & positive messages rub off on all of us!! Yasher Koach!!!!

I would not have held up Cortes as an example. It was insensitive. Cortes was a butcher who exterminated and enslaved the native population. It would have been better if he had been defeated.

I've searched all the comments for this remark. you are so right. he makes it sound like poor cortes had to face this huge mean army. and he won because of his fire arms. the Torah forbids us to put ourselves in dangerous situations. there are people who say that their cancer has brought out the best in them. tragedies can indeed transform ordinary people to heroes and found great organizations like zichron menachem or dor yesharim. but who goes looking for that?

Thank you so much for your message, which came at just the right time for me. The inspirational "vision" followed with practical steps is a great combination. I look forward to hearing more from you in the future.

Another great insight into life. Charlie, you always hit it right on the button. Aish.com - great visiuals - thanks.

Great job again Charlie! Better graphics too. Miss you all. Love to all and a special hug to the little guy!

Well done, Charlie! Loved it.

brilliant! Kudos to aish.com and charlie harary

I truly felt compelled to write and to say thank you for such a powerful message. I also liked the way with which you presented it; it was in such a humble, yet convincing way that made me completely focus on your message and take it home with me. May Gd continue to provide you with inspiration so that you will also continue to provide us with such insightful messages.