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A Carpet of Leaves

A Carpet of Leaves

Mitzvahs don’t need to be supersized in order to count.

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Thon, the largest student-run charitable organization in the world, is a year-long fundraiser run by Penn State Students. It benefits the Four Diamonds Fund which provides money for: cancer research and pediatric patients and has raised over 100 million dollars since its 1977 inception.

My son, Ian, is a freshman at Penn State, and he went door to door collecting for Thon in November. Ian discussed Thon at our Thanksgiving celebration, and after he stated that Thon raised over 12 million dollars last year, a family friend exclaimed: “Wow! That is one big mitzvah!”

My son said, “You mean twelve million mitzvahs.”

The friend was confused, but I understood exactly what my son meant. Every family has its stories, and one of our favorites concerns my paternal grandfather, Benjamin Ford, and the “carpet of leaves.” Papa Ben was born in Russia. His family was extremely poor, and his mother, Jenny, once wept because they could not afford a rug to cover the worn floorboards in their front living area. My grandfather (who was about eight at the time), knew how much his mother loved the colors of Autumn, and he secretly gathered up hundreds of the most beautiful, golden leaves he could find. He spread them carefully over the floor to cover the shabby spots. His mother came home to find, as she put it, this “magical carpet of leaves.”

Papa Ben knew that the leaves could not remain on the floor. He and his mother picked them up, put them in a bag and he assumed she would spill them back outside.

My grandfather came to this country at the age of 19. A cousin gave him a job and a kitchen floor to sleep on. Papa Ben taught himself English and obtained a high school degree. He sent hundreds of small money orders to his now twice-widowed mother in the hopes that she would come to America along with his two younger half-brothers, Joe and Saul.

Papa Ben’s hopes were finally fulfilled, and as he helped his family settle into an apartment, he found a small drawstring bag filled with what looked like dirt. He jokingly asked his mother, Jenny, if she had brought Russian soil with her so as not to be homesick. Jenny explained that the bag contained remains of the leaves he spread out on the floor all those years ago.

“This bag is filled with love. It wasn’t just one mitzvah. It was hundreds.”

My grandfather was shocked. “Why did that mean so much to you? It was just one little mitzvah!”

“This bag is filled with love,” she replied. “There were hundreds of leaves! It wasn’t just one mitzvah. It was hundreds.”

We live in a world where thoughts and actions are often considered of little value unless they are huge, costly and over-the-top. In other words, supersized. Our cars and homes are bigger. Starbucks coffee has gone from tall to grande to venti to trenta. Celebrities stage million dollar weddings for television and we are so impressed. (The only thing that could use a little supersizing these days is airline seats.)

Perhaps this is one of the reasons why the world seems to get ruder with each passing year. Life’s pace is too fast and the importance of small kindnesses is grossly overlooked.

Not only do our minds clog as we seek out the “supersized” moment, we also over-think when it comes to mitzvahs. We hesitate before doing a mitzvah because we over-analyze what sort of impact it might or might not have. Will our mitzvah be misunderstood, appreciated or considered “perfect” enough? Even a small mitzvah can inspire others to act kindly or lead to something unexpectedly spectacular, but it is not diminished if it remains a stand alone act.

Every money order of rubles and kopecks that my grandfather sent to Russia was a mitzvah in and of itself and need have gone no further to have meaning. Still, he was able to bring his family to America. His brother, Saul, never married and joined the Merchant Marines.

His other brother, my Uncle Joe (along with my Uncle Abe Shapiro), went on to become one of the founders of Brandeis University.

It was Maimonides who wrote:

A person must see himself and the world as equally balanced on two ends of the scale; by doing one good deed, he tips the scale and brings for himself and the entire world redemption and salvation. Maimonides, Laws of Repentance 3:4.

Nowhere does Maimonides specify that the good deed must be supersized to “tip the scales.”

Every mitzvah counts.

My son understands that the importance of Thon lies not simply in the amount of the final check, but in the willingness of thousands of donors and frenetic, exhausted students to give at least a small part of themselves. Each individual mitzvah that contributes to Thon is no less important than the end result.

The beauty of the mitzvah is that it takes us out of ourselves and connects us with the world; even if it is as simple as a little boy’s carpet of leaves.

Published: December 21, 2013


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Visitor Comments: 12

(9) Gary Tolchinsky, December 24, 2013 6:04 PM

Advice on Overanalyzing?:)

This is a great article and I particularly identified with the
point about "hesitating before doing a mitzvah because we
over-analyze what sort of impact it might or might not have".
I've found that I have many ideas how to achieve certain goals, but agonize over what's the best way to spend
my time. Do I give a class or write an aritcle or work on my
site: (quickplug:)www.jewishspiritualresponse.org....or
another idea that I thought of relating to Jewish
education? It seems logical to want to focus energy where it will make the most difference, but it also can cause procrastination and passing up some mitzvahs right in front of me because I don't want to get distracted by the "big picture"
Maybe this approach is pretty good, but the fact that the
about statement in your article hit home makes me wonder if I
could see things in a different way. Any ideas:).....Gary

Laura Deutsch, December 25, 2013 1:51 PM

How to avoid procrastination

Gary: It sounds like you do a lot and give a lot. I'm not sure what the answer is. Maybe it's trying to find a balance between being goal-oriented/having a plan and then just letting the heart flow free in a spontaneous act. How that balance is reached is tricky. I know that I certainly have not mastered it. Perhaps the first step is realizing that we need to have that balance and then spread our time between acts that are planned and not planned.
I'm glad that you enjoyed my article! Thanks for your comments!

lauraford2@yahoo.com

Gary Tolchinsky, January 1, 2014 6:54 AM

Thanks for the advice!

Appreciate your helpful comments. Execution is usually the hard
part of good ideas, but it's a start:) Thanks again......Gary

(8) Adam B, December 23, 2013 4:17 PM

Wonderful story

What an inspiring article! We truly do forget about the hardships that people endured generations ago, as the world has become a place where more and more people feel entitled. It's really the little things that count and mean the most.

Laura Deutsch, December 24, 2013 3:51 PM

Thanks for the wonderful comments!

I'm so glad that you enjoyed the article. Perhaps it comes at a good time when we all prepare to make our New Year resolutions that we tend to keep for all of five minutes... Let's remember the importance of the small kindnesses. I try to remind myself of that daily.

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