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Dear Me

Advice to my younger self.


Dear 15-year-old me,

The angst that you’re experiencing throughout the day as you sit in mind-numbing classes, wondering if there is a purpose out there that will somehow transform life into a high-octane, unforgettable and meaningful experience – it’s perfectly normal! In fact it’s good. It means you’re thinking about the big life issues and you’re coming to realize that a secular life pursuing material success isn’t going to ultimately fulfill you. Find people you can relate to and genuinely care about, and enjoy your last few years of living a carefree life. It will all soon change.


Dear 20-year-old me,

Don’t think you’re such a tzaddik (righteous person) just because you now wear a kippah and learn in yeshiva. You are still self-centered and arrogant, and you’ve got a lot to learn. Get out of yourself and give to others, and really try to put the Torah you’re learning into practice. The greatness you yearn for needs to be earned through incredibly hard work and commitment. It's not going to be handed to you. So get going.

Dear 25-year-old me,

You’re getting closer but you’re not quite ready to get married. Don't rush it. You’re still too wrapped up in yourself to be ready to commit yourself fully to another person. Think about others. Work on acquiring the traits now that you need for marriage. And when you do start dating for marriage, get a dating mentor to ensure that you remain objective and don't get swept off your feet. It’s great that you have life goals that you’re passionate about – start making them a reality.

Dear 30-year-old me,

Don’t let the fear of failure choke your dreams. That only guarantees failure. Believe in your strengths, know your weaknesses, and realize that the Almighty is rooting for you and is the ultimate source for everything. Go make your mark on the world. Marriage takes daily nurturing. Make sure your wife feels that she is your number one priority. And make sure that she is. Shower your kids with love.

Dear 35-year-old me,

By now you’ve realized that you are not in control. Man plans, God laughs…. It’s true, so don’t fight it. Embrace it and look for the good in things. Even if you can’t see the blessing right now, remember that God knows what He’s doing and is looking out for your best interest. You really don’t know better than God, even though you still sometimes think you do. Celebrate your successes, don’t take them for granted. Shower your kids with love. And no matter how busy you are, make time to play with them.

Dear 40-year-old me,

Do not give up on any of your dreams and ambitions. Rabbi Akiva just started to learn Torah when he was 40 – so keep learning and growing. Be consistent with your values and goals – your children are learning from the model you set. Appreciate your wife and make sure you are still nurturing your marriage. That's how to ensure your love will be even than it was when you were 30. Shower your kids with love. And no matter how busy you are, and no matter how old you think you are, make time to play with them.

July 31, 2014

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(2) Yehudith Shraga, August 1, 2014 5:43 AM

Dear me, Are we still in desert?

What about starting teaching reading and writing children from the age of 3 years old?
What about starting teaching Torah from the age of six, and the Wisdom of the creation from the age of 9 years old?
What about studying Talmud and performing Mitzvot on the full scale at the age 13, facing all the problems with the substantial knowledge and bestowing attitude?
What about joining the Army at the age of 18, and having a good profession, working and paying taxes at the age of 25?
What about having the social- economic level at the age of 30 which let you have a multi-children family and being able to supply them all with love, protection, any necessary items, food and education on your own?
What about being most active in the social and political life of the State of Israel at the age of 35?
What about reaching the success so high at the age of 40 for your children not having doubts if to follow your way or not?

What about becoming the Kingdom of Kohanim, and Holy nation in our days already!
It seems that we have to come out of our ego much quicker and more effectively, revise our program of life for it to suit our Presence in the Land of Israel, if we are to survive, fulfill our Destiny, become the generation when the Third Temple is built, and the Peace in all the world is restored.

All above is the minimum we have to do, because the G-d created us in the form of endless potential, so let it be realized and fulfilled for the Glory of the G-d and His Creation.
The Sages teach us to refuse to settle for less.

Today is the Yortza'it of ARIZAL, Bless be His memory, Let his Merit stand for us, and his teaching enlight our way to the bestowing form of the world. Let us know and be proud of our Legacy!

(1) ahuva, August 1, 2014 4:04 AM



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