From Millionaires to Paraplegics: The Secret of Happiness

What determines the quality of our lives?

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(9) Anonymous, December 7, 2017 1:26 PM

videos such as this keep me going when fatigue and emotional exhaustion rob me of my happiness and the cynicism begins to take root. as a surgery resident i encounter many difficult situations and course personalities. i turn to aish for heart warming inspiration that brings out the sincere good natured part of me, day in and day out.

(8) Anonymous, June 18, 2017 4:55 AM

My friends and I always enjoy watching the videos from this site, but we all agreed that this was our favorite one!! Very meaningful message and an overall fabulous job!

(7) Pam W., June 14, 2017 11:43 PM

Absolutely Beautiful

THANK YOU FOR THIS INSPIRING MESSAGE

(6) N.R., June 14, 2017 2:20 PM

Wonderful

This was just a superb video with an enlightening lesson

(5) Yaakov, June 14, 2017 6:45 AM

Typo

Sorry, there were a few typos in that. I was typing it from my phone...
Thanks again for the question.

(4) Linda Peterson, June 13, 2017 5:17 AM

How true! "The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the best out of everything they have." My husband and I loved this video so much. one of the best videos on the site yet!
Thank you for the wonderful message and for reminding us how to find true happiness.

(3) Jacque Armstrong, June 13, 2017 1:19 AM

Be Happy!

I have been rich, I have been poor, I have had family: now I do not. I have been a sinner, now I try to live righteously. I live in pain,
yet by the Grace of G-d I am able to work and support myself & help support my disabled daughter. Oh yes there are times I get depressed; even so I see the rainbow! I was young & now I am old........
Great and comforting video..... Thanx

(2) Ellie, June 12, 2017 11:06 PM

Brilliant

Very insightful and inspiring video. A real game changer! Now all I do is adopt this perspective.
Cant wait to share this.
Thank you!!

(1) Anonymous, June 11, 2017 3:32 PM

Happiness

I believe there is a contradiction in what is said in this video. You said that people who have very little are happy. Yet you also said that we should be grateful for the food we have on our table. You can't be hungry and happy. Hunger can also take many forms. You also said that we are happy when we have families. True, but what about if we don't have a family? How about when we lose a child, or children? When do we return to happiness, if ever?

Anonymous, June 12, 2017 9:41 PM

True happiness: appreciating what you have.

Not every one who has very little is happy, but we can see plenty of people with very little and still happy. Because although they lack many things, they appreciate more what they due have: a loving mother, a good friend, etc....

Then, we can be hungry because we lack food, but still happy becoz despite the hunger, if you feel loved. it brings hope which is happiness, evidently uncomplete
but still no sadness.

If you don't have a family, or when a child is lost, you may build an extended family of friends,adopt or get involved in children care. it is not the same, but still such people live a happy life.

Yaakov, June 13, 2017 4:44 PM

Reply

Thank you so much for your comment!
I apologize if the message was at all unclear and if it seemed like there was a contradiction. Let me clarify.
People with very little can indeed be happy. It is a matter of mindset and perspective. If you are grateful for and FOCUS on what you have, you will be happy. However, there are also people who have tremendous wealth, yet, they are very unhappy people because they are stuck focusing on what is missing from their lives (or what someone else has that they don't).
When I said that we should be grateful for the food on our table, our families and the roof over our heads; those were example of things that most people take for granted. Many of us assume that because having food is the bare minimum of life standards, we therefore do not see it as something we are meant to appreciate. But, when we begin to feel grateful for the "simple" things like having food and a home to live in, we will realize how much we have and we will begin to focus on our blessings; despite the difficulties we may also be experiencing.
According to Dan Gilbert's study, if someone does not have food or a family, they can still be happy if they are focused on what they DO have. Although this may be a meager amount, the point is, that there is always something to be grateful for. If a person literally has nothing, he may still be able to experience happiness by being grateful for the mere fact that he is alive for another day.
You're question is a very good one because the more extreme and dire the situation becomes, the more challenging it is to be able to develop a positive mindset and focus on your blessings.
Thank you again.
All the best,
Yaakov

 

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