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Landlord: A Yom Kippur Video

Are you letting resentments live in your head, rent-free?

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Published: September 18, 2012

This project was created with funds granted by The Covenant Foundation,
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Visitor Comments: 93

(83) Alan, October 8, 2013 11:41 AM

Nice in theory but....

Firstly I want to say that I agree with the principle that harbouring resentment is bad for you (not the person that hurt you) and getting rid of resentment is healthy for you.

But the video suggests that telling someone I forgive you (which is the father's advice to chanan) will remove the feelings of resentment you have towards the other person. I totally disagree with this. If only removing resentment from our lives would be so easy! Removing resentment requires having insight into the dynamics of the relationship - so one way might be for the father to discuss with chanan his relationship with David before they stopped speaking. But certainly not telling chanan: "forgive him"!

Furthermore, such emphatic advice from a parent (or rabbi or anyone for that matter) can even potentially be destructive, here's how: If the son still has feelings of resentment towards david after telling him he is forgiven, there are only two possibilities for how the son will feel: he will either feel bad about himself (because his father’s 'pearls of wisdom' just didn’t work) or he will resent his father. Both pretty undesirable outcomes..

(82) Anonymous, September 12, 2013 9:06 PM

brilliant. The animation fits the words seamlessly. The message hits home. Well written. It helps to learn this lesson over and over.

(81) Michal, September 9, 2013 7:32 AM

Wonderful video

Such a great video! I really needed to watch that to help me to forgive and let go of resentments I have been holding onto.

(80) DR. Evelyn BohM, May 16, 2013 4:02 PM

Wise father giving advise to son about forgiveness & letting go of resentment..

Such wisdom. For my patients, my friends & family & especially for me.

(79) Canada, April 20, 2013 4:09 AM

GREAT Video !

I just love all the videos by Hanan - every one of them are full of honest human feelings/reactions and then incredible wisdom! Thank you so much!
Please keep them coming . . .

THANK YOU :-)

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