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"You are the Jew who lit up my menorah."

I felt I was the only Jew in the world. Thanks to, now I feel part of this big, Jewish worldwide family.


My name is Carina Grigorjeva and I am 17 years old. I was born and still live in the town of Chop – I know it sounds funny, but there is such a town – in western Ukraine, near the border of Slovakia and Hungary. There are almost 9,000 people in our town; some who live on the outskirts still use a horse and wagon to get around. There's a big railway station where almost everyone, including my father, works.

My mother is Jewish and my father is not. My mother always told me and my brother that we are Jewish, but we knew almost nothing about religion, and I didn't know any other Jews in our town. I remember once when I was little, we had apples and honey on Rosh Hashana, but that was the only “Jewish thing” we did together.

I was the only Jew in my whole school, and I always felt different and a little uncomfortable, especially during the Christian holidays. Sometimes people would make jokes about the Jews, but for me it wasn't funny at all. There was one boy who, every time someone complained, would say, "Why are you acting like such a Jew?" As if Jews always complain for no reason.

I wanted to leave Ukraine and attend university in Hungary. But I came home from school one day and my mother told me I was invited to the Jewish University in Odessa. I had never heard of such a place, but my mother convinced me to visit. Once I was there, I immediately wanted to stay. The people there really impressed me, and I realized how important it was for me to study among Jews.

A friend at the university subscribed me to without telling me. At first I read it because I was curious. Then I found the Lori Palatnik videos. She spoke about the importance of the Jewish home, about respecting your parents, and told stories of seeing God in your life. Her examples were so easy to relate to, and they influenced me very much. has done so much for me. I feel like I'm really learning about who I am. Now I understand the importance of so many things like keeping kosher and Shabbat. I use to feel like something is missing but I didn't know what exactly. Now I know.

Through I feel connected to a whole community of Jews from around the world. It’s great to be a member of this big, Jewish family – especially when for so long I felt like the only one.

I got a siddur (prayer book) as a present last week. I can't read Hebrew very well, so I wake up an hour early to pray. It takes me a long time, but it feels amazing. has made me a more proud, confident Jew. If the “complaining Jew” situation happened again, I would definitely stand up for myself and tell that boy he wasn’t right.

I visit a few times every day. To help me remember what I read, I began a book of quotes. One I recently put in my book: "Every Jew is born with a little Torah and a little menorah inside of him. All it takes is for another Jew to bump into him and light it up."

When I read that, I thought of my friend who subscribed me to I told him, "You are the one who lit my menorah." is only able to reach and inspire hundreds of thousands of people around the world like Carina with the financial support from readers like yourself.

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March 7, 2011

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Visitor Comments: 20

(19) mickie singer, August 5, 2011 4:59 AM

this article is one of several on lighting up my life

how amazed and thrilled i am to find that so many other jews grew up and lived much like me, lomngimng for theior judaism, longing for a jewish life, feeling lost, looking yet not finding what was needed. i dom't know what's ahead for me but as of now i plan to print off every relevany article on every single subject and if necessary create my own text so i can learn and feel and connect. shalom found ones everywhere!

(18) esther, May 9, 2011 12:47 AM

keep going strong, youre a bright light in the Jewish nation! bhatzlacha in everything you do!

(17) Andy, March 29, 2011 3:21 PM

keep learning and don't get discouraged when you find it true that Jews do kvetch quite a bit

I think one reason is that Jews long for a more perfect world plus complaining often works in that it gets folks to at least evaluate the circumstances of the situation and sometimes effect a more just solution. A stiff necked people to be sure but,one who has contributed so much of value to humankind and G-d willing will continue to do so.Great article and shows th ereason why those that can need to suppoer

(16) Shalva, March 25, 2011 6:52 PM

What a story!

Don't stop there Carina. Reach for high goals. Help us change the world!

(15) L. =), March 25, 2011 10:45 AM


Dear Carina, thank you for the inspiration.. I think your story is wonderful. :) Encouraging... I am 16-year-old Slovak, therefore I was very much pleased to read about somebody living "next door" on :)) May God bless you greatly wherever you are. :) Just remain proud of being a Jew... Israel has to face a lot of difficulties, but I believe, that you are God's beloved nation and we, christians, should stand by you. Thanks be to God for all the Jews. =))

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