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Bamidbar(Numbers 1:1-4:20)

Be Yourself

Who you are as an individual is no accident. You were designed by an Infinite Being with extreme precision. You are you, because you were meant to be that way. You can't escape it, and if you try, you will be both unhappy and fall short of your potential.

Recently I pondered what was the most important thing for me to share with my children. I was meditating/praying for an answer. "What is it, that you, Almighty, want me to say to my kids?"

The answer (which may or may not have been from God - I don't have prophecy) was "Be yourself." That's what they need to hear from you.

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BE YOURSELF

So much of life is spent acting or pretending to be something you aren't. Society pushes and pulls us in so many directions that don't feel right. But we go with the flow. We don't want to stick out. We don't want to seem out of it. We want to be part of the "in" crowd.

At one point in Talmudic times, the head of the yeshiva study hall had a guard sitting outside with specific instructions: "Don't let anyone in who is insincere in any way. In order to be worthy to study God's wisdom, their insides must be like their outsides."

Although we know the Almighty does not hold back His wisdom from anyone who wants it, it is inconsistent and contradictory for His wisdom to flow into anyone who is a faker. Since the Almighty is completely one-dimensional, He is exactly what He is. In order to be fitting as a vessel for His wisdom, we need to work on being sincere, honest, and who we were meant to be.

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IN THE DESERT

In the beginning of the Book of Numbers, a census is taken according to tribal affiliation. Here we see individuality being emphasized, as opposed to earlier countings of the nation which were not according to tribes, but a general count. The desert was a time and place where a specific configuration of the tribes was designed. When they traveled, they had to be in formation.

Some biblical commentaries compare this configuration of tribes (to the north, south, east and west) with the zodiac and the 12 constellations. This is an interesting point, considering that astrologically speaking, the stars and constellations have an influence on the personality you are born with.

By dwelling in a set format that emphasized each individual tribe, this enhanced the feeling of purpose and design as individual tribes. Notice how this happened in a desert, a place devoid of influences from others. It is only in a desert where you can truly be yourself.

Should you find a place to seclude yourself in order to find yourself? Absolutely, unless it causes you emotional/psychological problems. Seclusion is one of the most powerful tools for spiritual growth, and was used throughout history by prophets, kabbalists and holy people. To make sure you're using the tool correctly, it's good to have a mentor for this type of activity.

If you find it difficult to get away, you can make a space in your home for seclusion and introspection, meditation and prayer. But ultimately, the goal is to live amongst society, while retaining your integrity.

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Community Orchestra

"But Rabbi," you may be thinking, "I've always heard that Judaism is community oriented." That is correct. The glory of serving the Infinite Being is increased, and the full power and holiness of the individual is only achieved with a community. We need to be apart of the lives of others. We cannot remain reclusive. We must go out into the world and make it a better place. But we can only do so if we have perfected the individual God created us to be.

Practice your trumpet alone in a room, away from others. When you have perfected your instrument and found your own music, come to the band, share what you have to offer, and join the holy orchestra.

As the great sage Hillel used to say, "If I am not for me, who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I?" (Avot 1:14)

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Spiritual Exercise:

Spend time this week meditating on the thought: Be yourself. Try to discover ways to make yourself more of the real you.

Published: May 6, 2009

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Visitor Comments: 7

(7) Anonymous, June 4, 2012 10:26 PM

Rabbi Max......thanks for this article.....you write with much clarity and they are not long. May the starts be with you and your family. Eileen

(6) Jane, May 23, 2012 3:42 AM

Thanks

This is comforting. I have decided to be in solitude for most of my time for a period of undetermined length. This makes me feel that I've made a valid chioce. I have always felt an over-riding need to have people around me and the need to be accepted. I think of this as a pilgrimage within.

(5) michael, May 28, 2011 7:51 AM

growing spiritually

Thank-you Rabbi for a very insightful article.At this precise time I am seperated from my wife and kids and am presently living alone.This gives me the perfect space and timing to concentrate on my spiritual growth.I meditate 3 times a day and the rest of my time is spent on the Aish site amongst others.Thanks

(4) Eileen, May 13, 2010 3:58 AM

Rabbi, thanks for this article. I'm glad you include meditation with prayer. May the stars be with you and your family.

(3) Philippe, May 10, 2010 3:46 PM

Is astrology accepted in Judaism?

Thank you dear Rabbi for this interesting article. This is the goal we have to strive to - to let our true inner self come to the fore. As you say 'Be yourself'. There is something that worries me though, the mention of the influence of stars on one's personality. Is this an accepted belief in Judaism? Many thanks and kind regards from Australia.

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