Aish.com relies on your support. Click here to support us.

Visitor Comments: 1

  • (1) Anonymous , November 10, 2009

    projecting or protecting?

    Rabbi, I know I have a hardened heart. I enjoy giving, but don't see the "poor" around me as being worthy of handouts. I've seen too many poor who are lazy, wasteful, and are get things I don't indulge in myself. I'm afraid that I pass up helping many people because I don't trust anymore. I'd love to know my giving was benefitting someone, and am often holding out. I don't want to be stingy. I know HaShem is gracious to all. Should I just give without concerning myself with how it's used...as He does? Maybe I just answered my own question?

Submit Your Comment:

  • Display my name?

  • Your email address is kept private. Our editor needs it in case we have a question about your comment.

  • * required field
Submit Comment

About the Author

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier

Rabbi Ben Tzion ShafierRabbi Ben Tzion Shafier is a noted and energizing lecturer, speaking more than 150 times each year. A happily married father of six children, he lives in Monsey, New York, and is one of the few Orthodox Rabbis who holds a black belt in Shotokan Karate.

All of his inspiring and motivating lectures, as well as his new book The Shmuz on the Parsha, are available at www.TheShmuz.com.

Features at Aish.com

  • Exposed
  • Fort Hood: Victim or Terrorist?
  • Beshert

Most Popular

  • 1.How To Get Your Prayers Answered

    Do you feel like you're talking to a wall when you pray? Here are five key tools for getting your prayers answered.

  • 2.How To Build Trust in Marriage

    When there is no trust in your marriage, you are headed for an abusive relationship or you may be in one already.

  • 3.Six Habits of Happily Married Couples

    Success in marriage hinges on consistent performance of six key habits.

  • 4.Beshert

    How to really find your soul mate.

  • 5.What Is Love?

    Many people believe love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. No wonder so many people are single. An excerpt from "Head to Heart."

  • 6.Sometimes

    It's mundane. It's magical. It's motherhood.

  • 7.Don't Scream, Sing!

    A text from the Middle Ages yields effective parenting advice.

Sponsors