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Bechukotai(Leviticus 26:3-27:34)

Why Things Happen

The beginning of this week's Parsha describes the specific cause-and-effect of human actions. "If you follow the laws, then you will have abundance ... but if you break the covenant, you will have distress..."

The idea that "choices are meaningful" is so basic to Judaism that it is expressed in the very first verse of the Bible: "In the beginning, God created heaven and earth."

There are two ways to understand the origins of life: Either it is random, or by design.

What are the implications of this argument?

If world is an accident, then I am too. There's no purpose to my creation, no "consciousness" behind it. In the beginning, when the gasses were swirling, was there such a thing as good or evil? Obviously not. Was there good and evil when the amoebas first formed? Obviously not.

In a random world, there is no hierarchy of values. A human's life is no more valuable than a dog's. Should I save my drowning dog before the drowning stranger? Would it be morally acceptable to label a race of people sub-human and kill them all?

Fortunately there's another approach. Nearly 4,000 years ago, a boy named Abraham, son of an idol-maker, meditated on the wonders of nature. He observed the sun as a perfect time-keeper, heat-producer, and water-evaporator that drives the world's rain system. He pondered the symmetry of a flower, the purity of water, and the attractive smell and color of an orange with its protective coating and sections ready to share. He reasoned: The world is perfect in design. Logic dictates there must be a Designer.

Thus Abraham became the first Jew.

Soul Perfection

The Jewish perspective is that the world is here by design. Which leads us to the next question: Why are we here?

We are here for a purpose.

Before a person is born, his soul – non-physical and eternal – is living in a "world of souls." The soul is quite content there, spending its days doing ... well ... typical "soul" things – like basking in the radiance of God's spiritual light, for example.

But then one day the soul gets a tap on the shoulder. "It's time for you to go down into the physical world, to be placed into the body of a human." Why? Because the soul, as-yet imperfect, needs to refine itself through encountering and surmounting challenges.

These challenges come in the form of specific events which modify our behavior in the area where our soul needs its "tikkun," rectification. These events are not random; rather, they are instructive. Which means there is a deep connection between the event and the message it contains.

The task of life? To discover that connection, and grow from it.

I would like to share a personal example.

I attended a prominent university, and one of my prized possessions was a coffee mug that bore the school's insignia. Years later, while working at an office, I would proudly carry my mug each day to get coffee. Then one day, a huge gust of wind blew through the window near my desk, knocking my mug to the floor and shattering it into a hundred pieces. My first thought was: "I'll call my old roommate and ask him to send me a new mug."

But then I forced myself to ask a deeper question: Why did this happen? Did this contain a message for my spiritual growth?

Through introspection, I realized that every day, while carrying my mug through the office, I would hold it proudly aloft, smugly aware that I was just a little better than everyone else – because this school was my alma mater and not theirs. Now I knew why the cup broke. I needed to rid myself of this foolish arrogance. And it took shattering shards to wake me up.

Sometimes the connection is not so obvious, and we have to work hard to discover it. We may not even always be successful in making the connection. But whatever the outcome, one thing is for sure: We cannot lose. The process of introspection is bound to reveal tremendous insight and growth.

Which reminds me of a story:

A man was running to catch a bus, but he arrived a moment too late, only to see the bus pulling away. Despondent, he turned to a sagely looking man and asked him, "Why did this happen to me?!"

"I don't know," replied the man, "but you've got another 15 minutes to think about it."

Intensifying the Message

Discerning the message only works to the extent that our eyes are open to see it.

We can choose to ignore the message as well.

One time I was eating lunch with a man who weighed 450 pounds. We were eating pizza, and the next thing I know, the big guy is choking. Before I could respond, a third man jumped up and gave him a Heimlich maneuver. Out of his mouth popped a wad of dough the full size of a baseball. And do you know what the big guy did? He calmly picked the piece off the table, placed it in the garbage next to him, and went on eating as if nothing had happened.

Okay. So what happens if we ignore a message?

Ignoring the message won't help make the problem go away. On the contrary, the wake-up call becomes more intense. The Talmud explains that initially, warning signs will appear on a person's house. If one does not heed the sign, then the spots will move a bit closer – to the clothes. Once again, only if the message is not received, the spots will appear on the body itself.

It's a mistake to try to cover it up. The spots are there for a reason and you have to face it.

A doctor will tell you the same thing: If you have a pain, don't ignore it. Get treatment.

The end of the story with my overweight friend? A few months later, he slipped on some ice and broke his hip. Another message, this time more intense. When I went to visit him in the hospital, he said flatly, "I'm thinking of going on a diet."

Countering the Natural Drive

Every test, every challenge, is tailor-made for our specific set of circumstances and station in life. The whole point is to awaken us from apathy and slumber, and move us toward the soul rectification that we came here to do.

Granted, sometimes the tests are fiercely difficult. But as difficult as it may seem at the time, sickness may somehow be what a person needs in the overall scheme of life. Because of that ordeal, he is now a stronger person, a wiser person, a more compassionate person.

Think of an athlete, a world-class high-jumper. When the coach raises the bar, is he trying to make life difficult – or is he drawing out the athlete's potential? Of course the coach wants the athlete to succeed! And if he's a good coach, he knows the right time and amount to raise the bar. Granted, the athlete might fail to clear that height. But the coach knows that with enough concentration and effort, the athlete will succeed.

The Bible tells us that Abraham was the master of kindness – his tent was open on all four sides to welcome guests. Kindness is wonderful, but too much can be over-bearing and smothering. That's why Abraham was given 10 difficult tests – which all addressed his ability to go against his natural drive for kindness. He was told to send his son Ishmael out of the house, to bind his son Isaac on the altar, etc. Abraham had to conquer his natural tendencies – in order to balance his personality and become truly great.

God does not challenge us with trivialities. He only challenges us in ways which will truly get us to grow. If we're imbalanced in one area, we will be sent a challenge to modify that trait.

The whole concept of Mitzvot is that they are actions which work against our nature. I don't need a Mitzvah to breathe, because I'm going to do it anyway. But since I may have a tendency to horde money, the Torah asks me to re-dispense 10 percent of my income to charity. If everyone gladly gave away money voluntarily, the Torah wouldn't need to bother telling us to do so. All the Mitzvot direct our growth, building our weakness into strength.

It is an axiom of Jewish thought that God does not give us a test greater than we can handle. This is illustrated in the Hebrew language itself, where the command form of a verb is the same as the future tense. Within the command itself comes the strength to actualize it.

Tools for Applying the Principle

  1. Look for the Big Picture. If things seem unfair and unjust, remember that what we see is only a tiny slice of reality. Many factors enter the equation before we arrive on the scene, and many resolutions will come after we're gone. That is why the Torah (Leviticus 19:32) commands us to respect older people: With a greater perspective of events over time, they have a deeper understanding of the grand eternal plan.
  2. Train yourself to ask: "What is this teaching me?" Find someone you trust, and ask for his or her perspective on whatever issues you're grappling with. Ultimately, we will never know for sure if we've hit upon the "ultimate" reason. But asking the question is always the first step.
  3. When something "bad" happens, try saying: "This must be for the best." Did you lose your job? A better one is waiting for you. If God sent the challenge, it is by definition good. Think about your own life, and where you grew the most – from the easy times, or from the difficult times?
  4. Remember your moments of clarity. At our house, we keep a notebook to write down insights we've discovered through startling events. It's a great tool for refocusing during times when things get tough.

Life is not about suffering. Life is about growing and making the changes we were put here to make. Difficulties are going to happen. That we cannot change. What we can change is our attitude. Will we view difficulties as a nuisance, or as a message? We may as well make the most of it. We have nothing to lose – and everything to gain.

Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Shraga Simmons

Published: May 20, 2000

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Visitor Comments: 21

(21) Anonymous, May 21, 2011 5:53 PM

very inspiring and thoughtful. thanks

(20) Jossef, May 3, 2010 6:33 PM

Well put an concise

Rabbi Simmons commentaries are always very informative, concise and to the point. This one in particular deals with such a fundamental yet practical issue, i.e. the connection between events and the correction of the soul and I applaud Rabbi Simmons for the clarity.

(19) vi, May 13, 2009 4:03 PM

shkoyach, amazing!

(18) oren shachar, May 12, 2009 4:09 PM

love your weekly love your vision .

you make this torah issue so easy to understand this days the languege and the concept of many rabbies trying to deliver messages in a very complex contextbut the truth is they deliver it wrong for the most part and whenever they already deliver in most cases they dont apply it to their own life can you tell me why ?? if you ever make it to L.A. i would love to have you over i have a lot of people that will enjoy your lecture i just need some notice like a month before so we can orgenize it perfectly so we will have rgt amount of participants thank you rabbi

(17) Scott Granowski, May 23, 2008 3:45 PM

Universe Not Random

Thank you for your column which is helpful in identifying the sources of why seemingly bad things happen to seemingly good people. Your insights as to the "big picture," life is for growth and events are constructive, not "bad" are important that I keep in mind - especially during the tough times!

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