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Bechukotai(Leviticus 26:3-27:34)

Why Things Happen

The beginning of this week's Parsha describes the specific cause-and-effect of human actions. "If you follow the laws, then you will have abundance ... but if you break the covenant, you will have distress..."

The idea that "choices are meaningful" is so basic to Judaism that it is expressed in the very first verse of the Bible: "In the beginning, God created heaven and earth."

There are two ways to understand the origins of life: Either it is random, or by design.

What are the implications of this argument?

If world is an accident, then I am too. There's no purpose to my creation, no "consciousness" behind it. In the beginning, when the gasses were swirling, was there such a thing as good or evil? Obviously not. Was there good and evil when the amoebas first formed? Obviously not.

In a random world, there is no hierarchy of values. A human's life is no more valuable than a dog's. Should I save my drowning dog before the drowning stranger? Would it be morally acceptable to label a race of people sub-human and kill them all?

Fortunately there's another approach. Nearly 4,000 years ago, a boy named Abraham, son of an idol-maker, meditated on the wonders of nature. He observed the sun as a perfect time-keeper, heat-producer, and water-evaporator that drives the world's ecosystem. He marveled at the symmetry of a flower and the purity of water; of the attractive smell and color of an orange with its protective coating and sections ready to share. He reasoned: The world is perfect in design. Logic dictates there must be a Designer.

Thus Abraham became the first Jew.

Soul Perfection

The Jewish perspective is that the world is here by design. Which leads us to the next question: Why are we here?

We are here for a purpose.

Before a person is born, his soul – non-physical and eternal – is living in a "world of souls." The soul is quite content there, spending its days doing typical "soul" things – like basking in the radiance of God's spiritual light, for example.

But then one day the soul gets a tap on the shoulder. "It's time for you to go down into the physical world, to be placed into the body of a human." Why? Because the soul, as-yet imperfect, needs to refine itself through encountering and surmounting challenges.

These challenges come in the form of specific events which modify our behavior in the area where our soul needs its "tikkun," rectification. These events are not random; rather, they are instructive. Which means there is a deep connection between the event and the message it contains.

The task of life? To discover that connection, and grow from it.

I would like to share a personal example.

I attended a prominent university, and one of my prized possessions was a coffee mug that bore the school's insignia. Years later, while working at an office, I would proudly carry my mug each day to get coffee. Then one day, a huge gust of wind blew through the window near my desk, knocking my mug to the floor and shattering it into a hundred pieces. My first thought was: "I'll call my old roommate and ask him to send me a new mug."

Then I forced myself to ask a deeper question: Why did this happen? Did this contain a message for my spiritual growth?

Through introspection, I realized that every day, while carrying my mug through the office, I would hold it proudly aloft, relishing in the special status I imagined it conferred. Now I knew why the cup broke. I needed to rid myself of this foolish arrogance. It took those shattering shards to wake me up.

Sometimes the connection is not so obvious, and we have to work hard to discover it. We may not even always be successful in making the connection. But whatever the outcome, one thing is for sure: We cannot lose. The process of introspection is bound to reveal tremendous insight and growth.

Which reminds me of a story:

A man was running to catch a bus, but he arrived a moment too late, only to see the bus pulling away. Despondent, he turned to a sagely looking man and asked, "Why did this happen to me?"

"I don't know," replied the man, "but you've got another 15 minutes to think about it."

Intensifying the Message

Discerning the message only works to the extent that our eyes are open to see it.

We can choose to ignore the message as well.

One time I was eating pizza with a friend who weighed 400 pounds. The next thing I know, my friend started choking. Before I could respond, a third man jumped up and performed the Heimlich maneuver. Out of his mouth popped a wad of dough the size of a baseball. At which point the big guy calmly picked up the wad of dough, placed it in the garbage next to him, and went on eating as if nothing had happened.

Ignoring the message, however, doesn't make the problem go away. On the contrary, the wake-up calls become more intense. In describing a spiritual malady called Tzara'as, the Talmud explains that initially, warning signs appear on a person's house. If one does not heed the sign, the spots move a bit closer - to the clothes. Once again, only if the message is not received do the spots appear on the body itself.

A doctor will tell you the same thing: If you have a pain, don't ignore it. It is there for a reason and you have to face it. Get treatment.

The end of the story with my overweight friend? A few months later, he slipped and broke his hip. Another message, this time more intense. When I went to visit him in the hospital, he said flatly, "I'm thinking of going on a diet."

Countering the Natural Drive

Every test, every challenge, is tailor-made for our specific set of circumstances and station in life. The whole point is to awaken us from apathy and slumber, and to encourage the soul rectification that we came here to do.

Granted, sometimes the test is fiercely difficult. But as difficult as it may seem, it reveals a deeper purpose in the overall scheme of life. That ordeal has the power to lift a person to become wiser, stronger, and more compassionate.

Think of an athlete, a world-class high-jumper. When the coach raises the bar, is he trying to make life difficult - or is he drawing out the athlete's true potential? Of course the coach wants the athlete to succeed! And if he's a good coach, he knows the precise time and amount to raise the bar. Granted, the athlete might fail to clear the height. But the coach knows that with the right concentration and effort, he will succeed.

The Bible tells us that Abraham was the master of kindness – his tent was open on all four sides to welcome guests. Kindness is wonderful, but too much can be over-bearing and smothering. That's why Abraham was given 10 difficult tests – which all addressed his ability to go against his natural drive for kindness. He was told to send his son Ishmael out of the house, to bind his son Isaac on the altar, etc. Abraham had to conquer his natural tendencies – in order to balance his personality and become truly great.

God does not challenge us with trivialities. He challenges us only to grow. Imbalance in one area will trigger a challenge to modify that trait.

The whole concept of mitzvot is that they are actions which work against our nature. I don't need a mitzvah to breathe, because I'm going to do it anyway. But since I may have a tendency to hoard money, the Torah asks me to re-dispense 10 percent of my income to charity. If everyone gladly gave away money voluntarily, the Torah wouldn't need to tell us to do so. All the mitzvot direct our growth, building our weakness into strength.

It is an axiom of Jewish thought that God does not give us a test greater than we can handle. This is illustrated in a grammatical principle of the Hebrew language itself, where the command form of a verb is the same as the future tense. Within the command itself comes the strength to actualize it.

Applying the Principle

Rabbi Akiva Tatz tells the following story:

Imagine you wake up in the morning to the ringing of an alarm clock. You reach to turn it off, knocking it onto the floor and shattering the clock. You grudgingly swing your feet off the bed and set them with a startle onto the cold floor. You get up, take two steps and stub your toe, in the process banging your head on a cabinet door. Thirty seconds in, and it's already an exasperating day.

Now imagine that the previous night, before heading off to bed, you check your email to find the following:

"Tomorrow morning you will knock your alarm clock onto the floor, shattering it. Then your feet will hit the cold floor, after which you will stub your toe and bang your head. This is all just a challenge of patience and self-control. Love, God."

What will be your reaction now?

Of course, such an email would remove the element of "free choice challenge." In real life, we use these tools to focus and rise to the occasion:

1) Look for the Big Picture. If things seem unfair and unjust, remember that we see only a tiny slice of reality. Many factors enter the equation before we arrive on the scene, and many resolutions will come after we're gone. That is why the Torah (Leviticus 19:32) commands us to respect older people: The greater perspective of events over time produces a deeper understanding of the grand eternal plan.

2) Train yourself to ask: "What is this teaching me?" Find someone you trust, and ask for their perspective on whatever issues you're grappling with. Ultimately, we will never know for sure if we've hit upon the "ultimate" reason. But asking the question is always the first step.

3) When something "bad" happens, try saying: "This must be for the best." Did you lose your job? A better one is waiting. If God sent the challenge, it by definition must be good. Think about your own life, and where you grew the most - from the easy times, or from the difficult times?

4) Capture your moments of clarity. I keep a notebook to write down insights I've discovered through startling events. It's a great tool for refocusing during times when things get tough.

Life is not about suffering. Life is about growth and making the change we were put here to make. Challenges will happen. That we cannot change, because that is our reason for being. What we can change is our attitude. Will we view difficulties as a nuisance, or as a message? Let's make the most of it. We have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Shraga Simmons

 

Published: May 20, 2000

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Visitor Comments: 30

(28) orly, May 16, 2014 10:47 PM

amazing!

Woww thanks for this inspiring article it has opened my eyes! Ashrecha!

(27) Walter Penkalski, May 16, 2014 6:10 AM

hatt a great Essay!

It is so hard to understand why we face difficulties. Rabbi Shragga has given me a new way of understanding things.

(26) Lauren, May 16, 2014 4:54 AM

My Belief & I Actually Feel it...

I am a survivor of Domestic Violence, and during the time of my escape to a Safe House I learnt so much about myself & the pattern of my personal self-destruction over the years. Although my life is still a little unsettled due to Bureaucracy & it's tardiness, I am happier with myself & my integrity. As a result I am attracting beautiful souls into my life, and I thank G-d everday for the strength I now have to ask for help when I need it & the sincere love I have for the new people I now have in my life. Thank for your words.

Mias Venter, May 16, 2014 10:37 AM

Well done

Dearest Lauren

Well done my girl well done. It’s always so amazing to read and hear stories about people that had the guts and conviction to stand up for themselves, especially in circumstances involving domestic violence.

I understand that it could not have been easy nor a quick and painless process, but hang in there you are absolutely on the road to recovery – you have already taken that first and frightful step.

We all have much to learn from the foundation of this article. The amazing thing is that you have kept your faith and are watering your soul at the right place. Aish is a wonderful place to get that proverbial soul food. I am so grateful for a place with their online resources.

You just remember one thing my dear – you keep on being the princes that God made you to be. Be powerful - bold and courageous, and remember - that you ARE a beautiful creation. The second thing to remember is that God also gave you a voice – use that powerful tool to the absolute fullest of your ability – and let no one quite that voice!

As a man I apologise for what you must have gone though and therefore I pray for a blessed and full life – a life filled to the brim with absolute shalom.

All the best to you from Sunny South Africa
Kindest Regards
Mias

(25) sharon, May 16, 2014 3:21 AM

Wow! Thank you so much Rabbi Simmons!

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