The Guiding Light Parshat Behar: Preventative Action
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Behar(Leviticus 25:1-26:2)

Preventative Action

"If your brother becomes impoverished and his means falter in your proximity, you shall strengthen him - the convert and the resident - so that he can live with you." (1)

"Don't let him go down and fall, and then it will be hard to stand him up, rather strengthen him from the time he stretches out his hand. To what is this similar - to a burden that is on a donkey; whilst it is on the donkey one man can support it and keep it up, but if it falls to the ground, even five men cannot raise it back up (Rashi)."

When a person begins a downward spiral towards poverty, the Torah instructs us to prevent his fall before he has nothing. As Rashi explains, it is far easier to help him while he still has something rather than to wait until he is penniless.

We can derive from here an important life principle that is not restricted to giving charity. The work, Zichron Meir, writes that while preventative action is important in the physical realm, it is essential in the realm of spirituality. When a burden falls from a donkey, five men are required to put it back on, but when one falls spiritually, perhaps a hundred people cannot prevent the fall! He further points out that this principle applies to one's own spiritual standing. It is far easier to remove a negative aspect of behavior at its root than when it is well developed. He likens this to a sickness which is easy to cure if it is discovered early, but if it is left unattended, it may spread too far to remove it.(2)

There seem to be two areas in which it is particularly crucial to work on at an early stage, in order to avoid insurmountable challenges later in life: Parenting and Shalom Bayit (peace in the home).(3) An easy way of addressing these areas is by studying the Torah approach towards them. A person may feel that he is able to deal with any possible challenges by using his common sense. Rav Noach Weinberg zt"l demonstrates the serious error in this attitude. He notes that people routinely spend many years studying in order to pursue a particular career. They recognize the need to be suitably qualified in their chosen field. Most people (hopefully) would agree that their marriage and family life are more important than their career. Nonetheless they expect to ably navigate the numerous challenges that they will face in these areas without investing time to learn more about them. Simply observing the world around us teaches us that having a successful marriage is no easy task - the divorce rate in the Western world is very high. Similarly, in recent generations the problems in the parent-child relationship seem to have escalated considerably.

A parent who decides how to bring up his (or her) child purely according to his own beliefs is at risk of making damaging mistakes that could easily be avoided by seeking out the Torah approach.(4) Similarly, basic mistakes in marriage can be avoided by attending classes, reading books, and speaking to experts on the Torah's opinion in these issues. It is essential to strive to identify and address difficulties in marriage at an early stage. Sadly, it is not uncommon for a couple to finally go for counseling when their problems are too deep-rooted to be fixed. This lesson also applies to people who have been married and have had children for many years. A person who is already married can nevertheless begin to increase the time and effort he invests into his marriage. Moreover, new challenges often emerge after many years of marriage that require renewed study in order to be dealt with properly. Similarly, a person who is not married or has no children can nevertheless begin preparing himself for marriage and parenting before he enters these stages in life. As well as studying the appropriate areas he can work on his character traits many years before, making him more able to face future challenges.

We learn from the Torah portion that helping someone before they have fallen is far easier than raising them back up after they have nothing. We saw that this principle applies in all areas of life; whether in marriage, parenting or any other area. By facing challenges at an early stage, one can avoid insurmountable difficulties later in life.

 

NOTES

1.Behar, 25:35.

2. Quoted in Lekach Tov, Parshas Behar, p.261-2.

3. This term usually specifically refers to marriage as opposed to other relationships.

4. Literally translated as 'the opinion of Torah' - this refers to views that derive from people whose sole source of wisdom is the Torah.

Published: May 8, 2011

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Visitor Comments: 1

(1) Valerie S. Kay, May 16, 2012 4:59 AM

Tune in to the spirituality and the emotional state of those close to you, then empathize to determine further action.

Each of us needs this kind of support and new awareness on a daily basis! Many people who have rejected religion do not realize that this is one of the important reasons that we cling closely to it: it helps us live more effectively, more peacefully, more contentedly with all of those we encounter daily! As I am continually aware that Hashem is always with me, my heart is full of joy and my cup runneth over with gratitude. I get a transfusion at my synagogue every Shabbat, Yom Tov and learning session!

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