Kindliness Is Godliness
Click here if you are unable to view this video.
Published: January 6, 2013
The Measure of the Man
“It was Aaron and Moses to whom G-d spoke....” — Exodus 6:26
After G-d commanded Moses and Aaron to be the emissaries to free the Jewish people, the Torah lays out their lineage. At the conclusion, the Torah repeats the names of Aaron and Moses, this time in reverse order with Aaron mentioned before Moses.
Rashi seems to be bothered by both the repetition of the names and the reversal of their order. He says this comes to teach us that Moses and Aaron were equal. Even though from that point forward, Moses would be the leader of the Jewish nation, don’t make any mistake. Aaron was just as great.
Wasn’t Moses far greater than Aaron?
The difficulty with this is that according to all measures, Moses was far greater than Aaron. Moses brought the plagues on Egypt. He led the Jewish people out of slavery. He split the Reed Sea. He received the Torah on Mount Sinai. But even more telling, he was the greatest prophet who ever lived. The only human who reached the level of seeing G-d with total clarity was Moses. There never was nor will there ever be a person who will reach that level.
So how can Rashi tell us that Moses and Aaron were equals when clearly Moses was on a higher level?
Two Systems for Measuring the Greatness of a Person
The answer to this question seems to be that there are two systems for judging a person’s greatness: one is absolute, and the other is subjective. When measuring a man based on the absolute standard of greatness in Torah and perfection, Moses was far greater than Aaron. He towered over any other human ever created. However, there is another system for measuring a person’s success. Based on his capacity and his potential, how much did he accomplish?
Before each person is born, he is predestined to have certain abilities and talents, a particular level of intelligence, and an exact disposition and temperament. At the end of his days, he will be compared to what he could have become. How far did he grow? How much did he accomplish with the tools given to him? This system is subjective. How much of his potential did he fulfill?
Moses may well have reached 99% of his potential, but so did Aaron. So even though in the absolute sense Moses was far greater, and others had to treat him as the greatest human being ever, in the subjective sense of reaching one’s capacity, Aaron was his equal, and as such was just as great. That is what the Torah is teaching by exchanging the order of their names.
I Won’t Be Compared to You
One of the most sobering concepts is that when I finish my job on this planet, I will be judged. But I will not be measured in absolute terms of how much Torah I mastered or how much I accomplished. That is far too inequitable.
I won’t even be compared to others in my generation. I won’t be compared to you or to him or to her or to anyone else. I will be measured by a far more just and exacting standard – me. How much of me did I become? 80%? 60%? 50%? And that is who I will be for eternity.
When We Leave This Earth – The System Is Subjective
In this world, we can’t measure a person’s potential, so we give honor and respect based only on the absolute measure of the person. If this person is functioning on the level of a great person, we are obligated to respect him and treat him with honor.
However, when we leave this temporary existence, everything will become clear. I will understand exactly what I was destined to be. And I will also know your capacity and what you could have been. There are no head starts, no advantages or disadvantages – just percentages of realized potential.
At that point in our existence, there will be individuals who appeared to us as great while we were occupants of the physical world who then will shrink dramatically, having only reached 20% of their potential. They’ll be pygmies. And there will be many others who we once cast into the category of the insignificant, but who are actually towering giants, having reached 85% of their potential. Just as with Moses and Aaron, it wasn’t the rank or position that they held that will be the final determinant, but rather our subjective greatness in regards to who we should have been.
Who I Am for Eternity
This concept has great relevance to us – both positive and negative. There seems to be a natural tendency to compare ourselves to others. “I am smarter than he is. Better than she is. Not as talented as he is. . .” If my disposition is to favor myself – being kindly to me and tough on you – I become inflated, over-confident, and full of myself. If my prejudice is to be harsh on myself, then I will constantly find others superior, and my sense of self will suffer.
The reality is that all of it is irrelevant. It just doesn’t matter. It is true that at the end of my days I will be compared – not to you, but to me. The only question they’ll ask and the only criteria that will count is how far I took my G-d-given talents and situation. How much of me did I become? And that will be the rank and station that I will occupy for eternity.
“The Shmuz”, an engaging and motivating Torah lecture that deals with real life issues is available for FREE at www.TheShmuz.com. The new Shmuz on Life Book entitled: Stop Surviving and Start Living, is available at sefarim stores, or at the Shmuz.com.