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September 22, 2013 2:41 PM
Effort v.s. result
I found this parenting episode very interesting and thought provoking. When I was a youngster (many years ago) children did fall short of a goal and failed. They understood that there was a defined standard to achieve and if they did not then they would fail. Today children get trophies for showing up to a competition whether or not they win, which is not the way the "real world" works. In my opinion, the child who works hard at a project may get "partial credit" and be praised for his effort if he misses the mark, but to give him"full credit" will not prepare him for the years to come.
September 22, 2013 1:53 PM
Such a powerful lesson!!
We must put a dash of mercy in our judgement of our kids as well as ourselves!! Bc we want GD to add a huge amount of mercy when He judges us!And yes, the effort is maybe even more important than he outcome.Rabbi Y....this is a priceless lesson...thank you!!
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