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Trumah(Exodus 25:1-27:19)

Trumah 5770

GOOD MORNING! What would you say to stop someone from committing suicide? What would happen if after listening to all of the pain and suffering the person has gone through in his life, you asked, "Tell me, what if on top of all of your problems you were blind, too. Then right before you jumped, a miracle happened and you could see. Would you still jump?" Chances are the person would say, "Are you crazy? I'd want to see what my children look like, the color of the sky, to see the ocean, a mountain! No way I'd kill myself!"

Yet, there are lots of people who can see who do kill themselves even though they can see their children, the color of the sky, the ocean and a mountain. Why? We just get used to our pleasures in life. A person can get used to anything - good health, being a multi-millionaire, private jets, beautiful homes, even a loving spouse and children. It's sad. Worse, it's tragic. What can we do to focus on the pleasures in life?

Here's an idea: If you're married, agree with your spouse that at the end of each day you'll share two good things that happened that day. So often we spend our time with our spouse complaining about what went wrong that day. Just share the two good things before going into the trials and tribulations. Each day has to be two new things! And if you're single, plan with a friend to do the same thing each day.

What do you answer when someone asks how you are doing? Oftentimes the people I meet say, "Can't complain." It doesn't do much for me and it does less for the person saying it. Sometimes I'll try to focus him or her that if he or she can't complain, then he or she probably has something good from which to take pleasure. How do I do it? I ask him or her, "Why not? I'm a rabbi. I'll listen to your complaints about life." Most people say that they really don't have anything to complain about. (I am not naive; I know that it just might be possible that the person would prefer not to have this discussion with me...)

Then I suggest, why not train yourself to respond, "Good, thank God" - or if he or she really wants to appreciate life to answer "Great, thank God." And if he or she really wants to thrill with life, answer "Fabulous, thank God" or "Magnificent, thank God." It not only uplifts the person responding, it uplifts the one who asked!

Why do I always suggest ending with "Thank God"? It is important in life to have gratitude and to show gratitude. Everything we have in life is ultimately a gift from the Almighty. By focusing on that fact and responding in kind, it not only makes one happier, but also a better person.

On an even deeper level, the Talmud (Brachos 54a) teaches that a person is obligated to bless the Almighty for misfortune with the same joy as when one blesses for good fortune. How is it possible to fulfill this obligation? If we appreciate that the Almighty loves us and only gives us what is good for us - for our spiritual growth -then we can work on focusing that what seems "bad" right now will be ultimately for the best.

In addition to the long-view philosophical approach, each of us has a choice as to what we focus on in the immediate present. The old question: "is the glass half full or half empty?" applies on a daily basis and a moment by moment basis. (By the way, maybe the glass is just too big? Or, maybe it depends upon whether you're pouring or drinking?) Happiness in life is a matter of focusing on the present. If you appreciate the good in every moment, then ultimately your life is filled with millions of moments of happiness and is a happy life.

If one focuses on the past, it is often with regrets for missed opportunities or lost benefits. (You can focus on the past, but there's no future in it!) If one looks to the future with expectations or wishes that things should be different, he misses out on appreciating what is going on now and is probably focusing on what is "missing" now.

I once saw a beautiful quote that sums it up, "The past is history, the future a mystery and now is gift - which is why it's called the present." Appreciate the present!

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Torah Portion of the Week
Terumah

This week's Torah reading is an architect's or interior designer's dream portion. It begins with the Almighty commanding Moses to tell the Jewish people to bring an offering of the materials necessary for the construction of the Mishkan, the portable sanctuary.

The Torah continues with the details for constructing the Ark, the Table, the Menorah, the Tabernacle (the central area of worship containing the Ark, the Menorah, the Incense Altar, and the Table), the Beams composing the walls of the Tabernacle, the Cloth partition (separating the Holy of Holies where the Ark rested from the remaining Sanctuary part of the Tabernacle), the Altar and the Enclosure for the Tabernacle (surrounding curtains forming a rectangle within which was a large area approximately 15x larger than the Tabernacle).

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Dvar Torah
adapted from Twersky on Chumash by Rabbi Abraham J. Twersky, M.D.

The Torah states:

"They shall make a Sanctuary for Me - so that I may dwell among them" (Ex. 25:8).

What lesson for our own spiritual growth can we learn from this verse?

The Shelah HaKadosh teaches that this verse can also be translated as, "They shall make a Sanctuary for Me and I will dwell within them" - within each individual. This teaches us that every person should make himself into a Sanctuary wherein the Divine Presence can rest.

The Talmud informs us that God shuns a person who is vain and arrogant : "I cannot dwell together with him" (Arachin 15b). "I abide in an exaltedness and holiness - but am with the contrite and lowly of spirit" (Isaiah 57:15).

Every person has a space where God belongs. We must make that space available so that God can enter it.

 

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QUOTE OF THE WEEK:

Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are
something to do, something to love,
and something to hope for.
--  Addison (1672-1719)

 

 
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Richard Codron

Hong Kong

 

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Kalman Packouz

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Visitor Comments: 2

(2) David, February 17, 2010 1:59 AM

Martin Grossman, A"H

Dear Rabbi Packouz, I read with concern and acted upon your request for clemency for M Grossman. I wrote to Gov Crist. unfortunately at the time of this writing, the execution has taken place, H'y. There was a kiddush Hashem with the involvement of the community; the efforts to save a life waswonderful, but, i must raise an issue: this from an email that i just received from the Governors office." Mr.Grossman violated his probation by leaving Pasco and having a stolen firearm in his possession. Ofc Margaret Park found the weapon. When she reached for the radio in her patrol car, Mr. Grossman attacked her with her own flashlight, beating her over the head and shoulders 20 to 30 times. When Officer Park tried to fight back, Mr. Grossman took her .357 Magnum and shot her in the back of the head, killing her.Mr. Grossman took several carefully planned steps to cover up this horrible crime. The weapon was buried, and Mr. Grossman attempted to burn his clothes and shoes, which were later disposed of in a nearby lake. The following day, Mr. Grossman thoroughly cleaned the van and changed its tires to mislead law enforcement The facts of this crime clearly meet the definition of heinous, atrocious and cruel, and his actions afterward demonstrate his well-reasoned attempts to cover it up." i take issue with the facts that you presented in the Shabbat Fax of parsha Yisro.those acts committed seem hardly those of a misguided youth under the influence of drugs and or alcohol. he had opportunity to run after beating the officer and instead chose to execute her. he tried to cover his tracks, hardly the action of a scared individual caught up inan unintented crime. it does not change the fact that the kehila should tryto save his life, because he has shown remorse for 25 years. all that will hopefully be a mailitz for him in the olam haemes but i feel that the story should have been reported as it occured and not whitewashed. thank you. may we hear of only b'suros tovos.

(1) Anonymous, February 16, 2010 5:14 AM

All I can say is THANK YOU...meant alot to me.

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