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Single Person Forgetting to Light

I am a single girl living alone. I usually visit my parents for Shabbos but sometimes I stay in my apartment. This past week I was at home and forgot to light Shabbat candles – since I’m not that used to doing so. I heard there’s a penalty for a person who forgot – that he has to light an extra one every week going forward. Does that apply to me?

The Aish Rabbi Replies:

I’m sorry for your mishap. The custom of adding an extra candle is really directed toward a married woman. She has a special obligation in this mitzvah in order to maintain light and peace in the home. Though a single person who is alone should also light (as well as a man whose wife is away), the extra candle penalty does not apply to such people (Siach Yitzchak 135).

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