About the Author


Aleeza Ben Shalom

Aleeza Ben Shalom is known as the Marriage Minded Mentor. She is a professional dating coach and the author of Get Real, Get Married, your guide to get over your hurdles and under the chuppah! Aleeza is a passionate speaker and regular contributor to Aish.com and Yated Ne’eman. She works with clients from around the world, as well as, trains future dating coaches. You may also recognize Aleeza from her appearance in the web series Soon By You. She has been interviewed by BBC World News, and NPR. To book a one-on-one or learn more visit: www.marriagemindedmentor.com.


How to Reduce Your Dating Jitters

Being nervous is totally normal. Here are few practical ideas to help you manage your dating anxiety.

Virtual Date Ideas

What to do to keep online dating from getting stale.

Seder for One: How to Make it Meaningful

All alone for Passover Seder? Don't despair!

Dating in the Age of Corona

How to navigate during times of social distancing, quarantine, and isolation.

Dating After Divorce or Loss

How to put your best self out there again.

The Worst Dating Advice I Ever Received

Do not follow these supposed gems of wisdom.

Dating and Judging People Favorably

How to be inscribed for a good year and merit your soul mate.

When a Date Says No: Turning Rejection into a Blessing

How to preserve your positive attitude while dating.

7 Tips for a Successful First Skype Date

How to make a good first impression on video chat.

Why Women Should Date Nice Guys

Why are so many women attracted to guys that just aren’t so nice?

8 Habits Every Relationship Needs

Creating and adapting positive relationship habits that will increase satisfaction and stability in your relationship.

5 Common Relationship Complaints

And the best way to start working on each one.

4 Ways to Create a Strong Relationship

Four core things you need to do to build a meaningful and happy relationship.

I Like You Because: 30 Sentence Starters for Dating

A practical tool to help you get clarity about your thoughts and feelings, and take your relationship to the next level.

Dating Someone from Another Country

I thought it would be easier than it is.

6 Dating Mantras for the Marriage Minded

My favorite things to say to yourself to keep you focused, positive and grounded when dating.

3 Ways to Prepare for Your Bashert

Marriage is a skillset that can be learned.

5 Dating Rules You Should Break

Common advice that’s best not to follow.

Keeping an Open Mind while Dating

Knowing where to be flexible in looking for your soul mate.

7 Ways to Relax and be Less Intense on a Date

Tips for coming across relaxed and approachable so your date can get to know the real you.

Is Ghosting Really that Bad?

When it’s obviously over, isn’t this sometimes the least hurtful path to take?

The Dating Coach’s 49 Blessings for the New Year

Focusing on blessings while you’re working on finding the right one.

5 Ways to Date with Clarity

Why is dating so complicated? Help!

Not Feeling It, Should I Break Up?

My rule of thumb: When in doubt, keep going out.

10 Habits of Green Speech

Change your words, change your life.

How Do I Get a Second Date?

Help! For some reason my first date is always my last.

10 Out-of-the-Box Dating Activities

Tired of sitting in a café? Here are some fun dating ideas for types of couples.

Overcoming Dating Anxiety

7 practical tips to calm yourself down and focus on connecting with your date.

5 Techniques for Meaningful Conversation in Dating

How to go from casual conversation to a deep, meaningful one.

Doubts in Dating

I’m just not sure if this feels right. What should I do?

How to Survive When You’re Not Dating

Practical tips to keep going when there’s no prospect in sight.

How to Deepen Your Long-Distance Relationship

9 tips on how to make your LDR thrive.

10 Questions to Ask Yourself after a Date

Some practical guidance for clarifying your post-date thoughts and feelings.

5 Ways to Show a Woman You’re Interested

How to give off the right signals to your date.

5 Things to Know when Writing a Love Letter

Reclaiming the art of writing a love letter.

5 Ways to Accept Rejection

What to do when it’s over.

Myths and Facts about Dating

Busting four prominent dating illusions.

My Dating Dilemma: Should I Cut My Losses?

We have different backgrounds and lack depth in our relationship? Should I take things further? How?

Dating Expectations

What is the goal of each date?

8 Reasons You’re Not a Dating Failure

The relationship may have failed but you’re not a failure.

How to Create Chemistry

Yes, you can build chemistry! Here are 8 ways to go about it.

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