Just Breathe: Why Celebrate Mother’s Day Even if You Don’t Really Love Your Mother

So much of what we have comes from our mothers.

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(6) Anonymous, May 15, 2019 12:59 AM

Not all mothers are good people

Rabbi Tzvi Sytner's words are nice but, I fear they neglect some reality. For one, not all mother's nurse their babies. Secondly, many mothers have no love to give.

There are in fact multitudes of people who would be much better off spiritually if they were to cut off all contact with their mothers.

Ask those who work in Law Enforcement whether or not women who are mothers ever assault their own kids? Ask Psychologists if any of their patients have ever been sexually abused and/or exploited by their own mothers? The answers are yes.

I bring this up in an effort to combat gender mythology. And I'm not saying I've found anything particularly dangerous in this article. Merely, I wish to remind that men's expectations of women should remain in the realm of Human capability.

And I do not argue that most people do owe a great deal to their parents. More than could ever be repaid. But, not every couple who manage to get pregnant are Saints. Both genders are equals in their capacity for both good and evil.

(5) Samantha Rose, May 13, 2019 11:36 AM

Not all Moms are easy to love.

I celebrated Mother's Day this year and even bought my mom a fabulous present....not because I owe her anything, but because I have only one mom and I love her unconditionally, However, my relationship with my mom is not reciprocated. She doesn't love me unconditionally, she is not a giver, in fact she is quite selfish. She is so judgemental from childhood to adulthood and it still continues....yes, even on Mother's Day. I am a mom and because of the way I was raised by my mom, I now do everything opposite....I love, give, listen, support, and do what every I can to be the best mom possible to my son. As I child I was beaten, mentally, physically, and even sexually abused and abandoned. My childhood is a horror story, But I have risen up and grown from my journey and sufferings and learned to make the best of life. To this day, I yearn for a loving, compassionate mom who gives with all her heart and soul, but that is not reality, However, like I said, I love her unconditionally, she is my one and only mom, so even though it was a painful day, I celebrated Mother's Day with my mom and even thanked her for being my mom. Let Go, Let God as they say in the 12-step program. And that's what I do. I let go.

(4) Carol, May 13, 2019 1:15 AM


Thank you! I love the revelation that the “M” sound is practically universal for mom in many languages and that the root meaning to the letter in Hebrew is “from”. Great perspective that we should love and honor moms even if that’s not easy for some of us.

(3) Bracha Goetz, May 12, 2019 9:52 PM


(2) Anonymous, May 12, 2019 2:18 PM

? ? beutifull

(1) Nancy, May 12, 2019 12:12 PM

What we got from our mothers

Some now grown children may have decided to raise their offspring differently. Not every maternal contribution is positive. A few years ago a woman wrote a book about putting her overweight 7 year old daughter on a strict diet. The child had very little say in this matter, and IMO this mother committed an incredible act of lashan hara. Perhaps this young girl will raise her own children in a completely different way.


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