Yom Kippur & the Power of Granting Forgiveness

Stop giving so much credit to the person who hurt you. Discover the greatest gift of liberation you can give yourself.

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Comments (11)

(8) Tirtzah Mar'Cia, October 16, 2019 9:37 AM

WOW! Liberating!

תודה רבה!

(7) Joyce, October 7, 2019 2:59 PM

Knocked it out of the park

Once again, Rabbi Sytner, you've knocked it out of the park, with another if your inciteful, direct and clear messages. Thank you.

(6) Alexandra, October 6, 2019 9:00 PM

Beautiful video, Todah rabah!

(5) Maria, October 3, 2019 6:18 PM


Thank you so much for this hint which I knew already a long time, but you brought the importance again on the forefront. So in these awefull days I will steadfast work on it and bezrat Hashem this year it will be solved!

(4) Anonymous, October 2, 2019 11:20 PM


Forgiveness is not a pardon.

(3) Lazarre S Simckes, October 2, 2019 3:59 PM

Forgiveness for others must be forgiveness for others, not just for ourselves.

The one line summary says it all.

(2) Anonymous, October 2, 2019 2:25 PM

I gave it to HaShem

This past year some people hurt me, badly. Could have ruined me completely to the point of just giving up on life. But I did something; I gave the job of punishing them to where it belongs: to HaShem. Only He knows exactly what they deserve; I might be too harsh, or too lenient. He will do exactly what is right. But in the process I also gave up the hurt; since I no longer have to think about what to do about the whole incident I no longer have to think about the hurt that they caused. And I moved on. Forgive them? No longer matters. The hurt is gone already. Forgive me? Please do, HaShem. I know I'm far from perfect. But I'm no longer hurting since I gave it to You.

Dvirah, October 4, 2019 5:16 AM


There is also the issue of whether the person who did the damage asks for forgiveness. Sometimes they are embarrassed to do so, or might not realize how hurtful they were - or just not care. So passing the issue to HaShem covers all cases and frees one to move forward.

(1) Anonymous, October 2, 2019 9:27 AM

How does "own it" apply to someone who sometimes screams at you?

I don't understand "own it" as it applies to living with someone who sometimes screams at you. I can accept that that's what the person does and it won't change (I've tried to speak to them), but I no longer want to be close to that person even though they have some good qualities. That's how I protect myself. So how do I forgive when I know I'll be repeatedly hurt and forgiving won't make me feel any better?

Anonymous, October 2, 2019 2:34 PM

I too would like to hear the Rabbi speak to this

I feel the same way. I cannot get away from the individual so even though I have forgiven, I still keep getting hurt by them. I've tried distance, unplugging from social media, I've even changed phone numbers. I may have done the right things, but they will never go away. When does this become plain harassment?

Margarita, October 3, 2019 4:17 AM

give credit

it's a nice simple video, which isn't here to resolve all our issues. however it's important to point out that forgiveness is extended to people who hurt us either unintentionally, unknowingly or taking steps to change their behaviour. and even than, forgive isn't same as forget.

maybe we should realise that we are not giving credit to people who hurt us, we learn to grow from pain to ensure that we can protect ourselves and people who near & dear.

so all that being said, this is a lovely video which was never intended to address all the issues or resolve problems.


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