Writing Therapy

If you can’t talk it – write it out.

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(17) Joey, December 29, 2013 5:29 AM

I personally find it easier to write to other people when I need to say something difficult/important, since it gives me more time to think things out and avoid blurting out something stupid/losing my train of thought. This might come in handy to others who flounder when speaking.

God bless!

(16) Anonymous, November 12, 2013 9:27 PM

Sort it out

Sometimes my head is in a mess. Unexpected things, feelings blurred, weird, unknown.
I put the pieces on paper. What happened? What is going on? Write to yourself. Give you solution. Understand why of all the things. One after the other. Then you know, you are calm, you solve, you learn.
Just agreeing it works.
Thank you.

(15) Anonymous, October 27, 2013 11:59 PM

Thank you!

I write a lot. Sometimes poems, sometimes not, and sometimes I just make lists. I find, however, that when I write too much, I get into a negative cycle of repetition. Any ideas of how to stop that?

Ellie, February 16, 2014 5:36 PM

Something that can be done is to try write at least one thing positive each day. This should help you focus on the positive, thereby leaving the negative cycle behind. Another thing that may help is to realize that it's not you in control, but Hashem...

(14) Marvin Shaw, October 25, 2013 1:37 PM

Happy to help you

I am the author of the book Poetry For Health - The Power of Poetry to Heal and Fulfil. I believe that anyone can write (yes, even poetry - because anything can be poetry) and that writing can be healing. If I can be of help to anyone (even though I live in England!) then please contact Aish and ask them to put you in touch with me.

(13) Anonymous, October 25, 2013 2:52 AM

Expressing One's Feelings!!!

Rabbi Salomon is absolutely correct. Even though I am very talented in expressing my thoughts and feelings verbally as well as in writing, I have found that the best way to express one's thoughts and feelings is by commenting on websites such as Aish HaTorah. If it is not too personal, I will comment using my first name and if it is too personal, I will comment anonymously. It makes me feel much better afterwards, especially since my wife and at times even my children have no time and energy to listen to me as well as not being able to confide in them about certain issues. There are a few friends who I am able to confide in about certain issues but not everything such as my disastrous marriage of 30 years so commenting on a website like Aish is very helpful.

(12) Anonymous, October 24, 2013 6:22 PM

sometimes it's writing a letter...

Yes, writing can be so theraputic! I have 2 Mashpias (spiritual mentors) One lives here in States, and one is in Israel. Often, it's not the right time to call either one, but I'll pour my heart out in a long e-mail to the one in Israel......and by the time I'm done writing, I have much more clarity on the issue at hand...now on the poetry subject....gotta go write one, right now!

(11) Alyssa, October 24, 2013 4:51 PM

I write all the time. Both the negative as a release. And the positive (gratitude journal) as a reminder of all my blessings. Yes, I even write poetry.

(10) Asher, October 24, 2013 4:25 PM

Writing as an aid to cure

Writing about one's illness is now standard practice on Leeds Hospitals. It helps in curing Patients. Usually a Writer will visit Patients help those who find writing difficult.

(9) Michoel, October 24, 2013 4:17 PM

Spiritual Journaling

The process of using a journal with the support of the Scriptures is one of the most powerful spiritual exercises. It can also be restorative and healing.
I will often meditate on something I wrote decades ago, and it empowers me when I see the growth I have gained over the years.

(8) Anonymous, October 24, 2013 3:58 PM


Thank you for the video"... I'm often alone & have no one to confide in sometimes I write to God.... It may seem silly but it actually helps. I find it hard to speak to people sometimes words even on face Book are not private or are misjudged. .Thakk you for taking the time for the video many Blessings.....

(7) Anonymous, October 22, 2013 4:51 PM

So right!

There have been so many days when I have had to let up some pent up feelings on paper, (or in my case, a word document on my computer!) As you put it, the beauty is that I get to shift through my own jumbled up thoughts and really look at them in perspective. I always feel so much better by the time I'm done. I thank Hashem for the ability to express myself in writing.

(6) Rosen, October 22, 2013 5:19 AM

Exactly, Rabbi!

Indeed, it is better to write down your worries and gripes than to post those worries/gripes on social media such as Facebook and Twitter, which could easily be used against you. You can either share these written worries/gripes with a therapist, social worker, and/or Rabbi - or simply shred/toss them away. Such worries and gripes don't have to wait for the high holidays (Rosh Hashonah) when some of us do taschlich at a pond or body of water throwing pieces of bread.

(5) S, October 20, 2013 10:49 PM

I write my thoughts/feeling and then chuck it

I find that the act of writing itself is therapeutic; I don't even necessarily keep it.

Andrew Stiller, October 24, 2013 2:36 PM


Yes, I completely agree. I used to keep a journal faithfully for many years. Even though it has been shelved, I still find the act of writing to be helpful in allowing me to sift through whatever challenges, opportunities, struggles or thoughts may fill my head. It's almost a form of meditation for me, and I am grateful to HaShem for giving me this creative outlet.

(4) SusanE, October 20, 2013 8:19 PM


Hello Rabbi. I agree with everything about writing. Writing for so many people can be great therapy. I used to edit thank you cards and birthday cards and get well cards so as to say the right message. I wrote brief journals during the years I traveled. Not to remember where I went and what I saw, I had photos for that. But about how great the days were and how good the food was and about the great people I met. Also about the exasperating experiences too. Still write letters and cards by hand but first on a piece of paper first for editing. Couples usually don't have to do this because they can talk to one another and talk about ideas, and experiences and day to day happenings. Since I am on my own writing it down gets me in touch with making decisions and seeing that everything isn't in black and white. Even the comments on Aish are great therapy, writing them as well as reading other peoples comments. Jumbled thoughts become clearer when they are on paper. Thanks for a great video. ps I recentlyfound a diary I kept in 1958. What a comedy/tragedy as a teen.

(3) Anonymous, October 20, 2013 7:17 PM

better to tell it to Hashem

as a teenager i would do exactly what you recommend: write down my problems, what i thought & felt, how i saw things. alas, one the world came tumbling down when my mother read what i had written & was so upset by it that she practically wanted to throw me out of the house.
needless to say, this episode convinced me that it really is very risky to share your innermost thoughts, temporary as they may be, with a piece of paper.
and that's why i really like to share whatever bothers me, first & foremost with G'd in whispered conversation. some people call it hitbodedut & demand that you do it only a daily basis, like eastern ashram style meditation, but personally i prefer to do when i have a need for it & for however much time i have available. sometimes the answers come, often very simple, surprising, challenging answers, but even if not, there is always someone lending an ear, unjudgmental, loving, loyal, supportive and - never tattling!

(2) Anonymous, October 20, 2013 4:08 PM

It works

For me, writing was the key that unlocked the jail cell that was my mind. When something is really troubling me, I commit it to paper so that my mind will allow me to move on.

(1) Anonymous, October 20, 2013 2:45 PM

Writing is a great tool

I have always had trouble expressing my feelings. When I got married, this became more of an issue because I did not have the proper tools to express myself to my husband, particularly when I was upset about something. This caused hurt and frustration for both me and my husband. At one point, I began writing letters to my husband, and reading them to him once I was confident the letter truly expressed what I wanted to say in a way that was appropriate and constructive. I felt a lot better being able to express myself, and my husband felt a lot better knowing what was going on and how he could help me, rather than just trying to figure it out himself or watching me sit quietly and not talk. B'H it has helped our marriage and made us stronger as a couple having this tool in case we need it! Many people think one should be able to interact with one's spouse very naturally, but it doesn't come like that for some. I can attest to that, and how writing feelings down (and reading them) has assisted me in my relationships, especially the one I find most important to me.


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